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Okay, so let me give you a bit of a backstory: Abour two weeks ago, I met this amazing girl. We'd actually been following each other for a few months on Instagram, but we'd never met in person. Prior to our meeting, she'd been told by one of our mutual friends that we'd be good for each other, so there was bit of an interest from the start. Two weeks ago, we happened to be at the same event. In hopes of potentially getting us together, our friends arranged for her and me to meet one another. Honestly, I think it went well, but - like a complete fool - I forgot to ask her for her number. However, she asked our mutual friend to give me hers in hopes that I would text her; I did. It's seemed to go really well, and we've even talked about that interest she's showed, but we haven't really expounded upon it. Now, here's for the issue: she has a past with a guy that she's been friends with for years. Though he's head-over-heels for her, she's told him that nothing could happen between them. In addition to that, one of my best friends now has an interest in her; I don't think he's really talked to her much though. On paper, I feel like I should be happy (considering that she actually expressed interest in me; that we've been talking; and that we've even talked about her wanting to meet me), but I'm a little nervous. Without sounding like a pretentious douche, I'll say that I think I'm a nice, attractive, smart guy, but I'm just a little afraid that I'll screw things up. I honestly really like this girl, but I just don't know how to carry things out. I'm only seventeen, so it probably wouldn't be the end of the world if things didn't work out, but this is the first girl I've actually felt like I'd want to pursue a legitimate relationship with. Texting has been going well, but I just don't want to bore her or let the conversation become monotonous.

So i just finish reading a piece by a person named, George Smith, who just came out of a divroce only to realize that a lot of women these days don't want sex, relationship from majority of males but their attention.


"After a divorce, George Smith, 47, is dating again and finding that women don't want sex or a relationship, just attention. "

And it seems that this seems to be a common thing. Just recently a question featured on front page had a guy talk about how he was played, and used for attention by a girl on FB.

"In talking to a girl om fb I like that I met on holiday and she's sending me mixed signals. One day she'll be really blunt about everything and not talk a lot then the next she'll be extremely flirty with me and will consistently initiate conversation.

I've come to the conclusion that she just likes talking to me when she's bored or when she wants to be complimented etc. I'm really fed up about it because I feel like I'm wasting my time and have decided I'm just not gonna message her anymore."

In addition to this I've come across a girl stating many women are getting screwed romantically with the men THEY WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH and have opted to using the men they don't want sexually to give them the attention, affection they would have gotten in the relationship while using another guy completely for sex who i'm guessing is tall, handsome and couple tiers more attractive than them. If they can get both then is your boyfriend.

And then i ran across this woman's quote

"Attention until they are ready and want love. Attention is the same thing for woman as sex is for guys. If someone is throwing it at you, you aren't going to knock it off or shut it down. You will revel in it. Being wanted is better then being had. When girls are ready then they want love and to settle down just like guys. No not every girl needs or wants attention like that just like not every guy needs or wants sex like that but in my opinion it's different ends of the same thing."