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We are in a long distance relationship with someone living in NZ and is from my home country only. It's been a month now. And he asked me what my goals are and I said I'm not sure but want to do mba in my home country and work here where as he is in NZ and is calling me there. He said me I should take loan to pay for fees of NZ masters and come there and stay with him and do masters in NZ and that I shouldn't worry about job thingy. So bdw, I'm an introvert and have less friends and he was like name three friends and I just have one best friend to be honest and he asked me why I don't have friends. I am very reserved and he has problem with me not having friends stating how will I grow despite having a good job and that I won't be able to survive in corporate world. He said me thrice that in home country, you're paid less and abroad you're not and that I should come to NZ. He asked me why i, 23 year old girl not getting promoted and i said that it's p been a year and a half. He is 24 and asked me why no wfh for me and I said the reason that I don't have access to those softwares at home and will resume office after lockdown gets over coz here still everything is shut. He said that he'll leave me if he gets someone like him. I asked him why not leave me right away and he said that he doesn't have anyone rn. He don't have time to find one. He wouldn't leave me because he loves me. Such contradictory statements. He suddenly talked about pre-nup that he'll make me sign before marriage stating I won't get a single penny after divorce that made me wonder why he talked to me like that. He aslo mentioned about the break up part and asked me if I want to break up and I said that if you have problem with me, you should break up and make decision right away. Then he says he doesn't wanna break up. I totally don't understand what to do. Should I break up?

I found my boyfriend of 2 years has been cheating on me for 4 months today through his lover. So my boyfriend went for work placement abroad for 1 year and 7 months ago he met this girl at work and began flirting with her and asking her out but she said no because she knew about me. However, 4 months ago they began dating and having sex 4-5 times a week, he would stay at her place and also when they had sex he would finish in her because apparently she was trying to get pregnant from him. He also bought her some gifts and took her out to expensive restaurants. He returned home due to the virus, but he has been in contact with her for the past 2 weeks until she broke up with him and realised she passed him chlamydia. I am totally devastated I don’t know what to do, he claims he’s been having an affair with her due to the long distance but then why have sex with her and finish inside her, trying to get her pregnant? He keeps telling me it was purely sexual, but the girls also met his mother through FaceTime couple of times and he introduced her to his mum. He said he will never get back with her, but he’s due to return to the UK for work once the virus is over. I feel absolutely devastated and I don’t know if I should forgive him... while he was away he contacted me every single day and called me but I realised he went cold since he met her... what shall I do?

This is our text conversation.

Me: I love you.

Him: No you don't if you did you would never ever in life keep my child away from me.

Me: I'm not trying to.

Him: Yea you are if so you would've never had taken her away from me anyone can send someone pictures of a child but you choose to take her away that just shows how you really care and feel for me right their. For a woman to take their child away from there father and not contact them for weeks only to ask for shit really don't give a fuck about him or the child and that's facts 100 percent truth. You don't care about me you don't love me and for all I know you never even like me but it's cool thou that's my fault I should've see the signs. To leave you alone before this could have ever happen. Instead of you messageing me just leave me alone and stay far away from me as a black man I never wanted this for myself please leave me alone with the lies and bull shit.