We are in a long distance relationship with someone living in NZ and is from my home country only. It's been a month now. And he asked me what my goals are and I said I'm not sure but want to do mba in my home country and work here where as he is in NZ and is calling me there. He said me I should take loan to pay for fees of NZ masters and come there and stay with him and do masters in NZ and that I shouldn't worry about job thingy. So bdw, I'm an introvert and have less friends and he was like name three friends and I just have one best friend to be honest and he asked me why I don't have friends. I am very reserved and he has problem with me not having friends stating how will I grow despite having a good job and that I won't be able to survive in corporate world. He said me thrice that in home country, you're paid less and abroad you're not and that I should come to NZ. He asked me why i, 23 year old girl not getting promoted and i said that it's p been a year and a half. He is 24 and asked me why no wfh for me and I said the reason that I don't have access to those softwares at home and will resume office after lockdown gets over coz here still everything is shut. He said that he'll leave me if he gets someone like him. I asked him why not leave me right away and he said that he doesn't have anyone rn. He don't have time to find one. He wouldn't leave me because he loves me. Such contradictory statements. He suddenly talked about pre-nup that he'll make me sign before marriage stating I won't get a single penny after divorce that made me wonder why he talked to me like that. He aslo mentioned about the break up part and asked me if I want to break up and I said that if you have problem with me, you should break up and make decision right away. Then he says he doesn't wanna break up. I totally don't understand what to do. Should I break up?
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What do I do if my boyfriend tells me he loves me, but sees no future with me?
Talking about the corporate ladder, asking why you don't have a lot of friends, saying he'll leave you if he finds someone like him, mentioning that if you two get a divorce, you won't get any money from him; where is the love in any of this? He's talking to you like he's in a business typhoon, not as your romantic lover. I get that he's trying to be logical to you but he keeps making comparisons and degrading you like you're worth of value instead of priceless. He's not understanding your point of view and seems to be on a one-way mindset towards being financially stable/rich.
It's difficult to imagine having a healthy long term relationship with him, based on what you mentioned. He could be a helpful friend but with his state of mind, romance isn't even there. It feels like there's no room for a relationship when he's too focused on his career and corporate sectors. You need someone who'll be loving, supportive and passionate towards you, not as someone to be compared to. He's not a bad person but I believe there's someone out there who'll treat you much better than your current boyfriend for a long term relationship.
I'd say just by the title of your question. He loves you as a friend and I'd continue with him as a friend but move on to other people. Preferably ones that are closer to you as I feel relationships are stronger in person
You realise your boyfriend is a cunt, right? Like, talking to you as if you're a piece of shit, for no justifiable reason, why are you still even talking to him?
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