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My friends with benefits I've been hooking up with for 3years almost and I booked a room in a cheap motel. We went half and half on paying. I got us edibles to enjoy. We had sex and although we had taxi fair home he suggested that we should take a long stroll because he says we never communicate. So we decided to stroll and talked but we were high too of the edibles. It was fun. I never knew how funny and nice of a guy he was it bothered me when we walked he would hold my hand kiss me in public and all that. Even when we was in the hotel room he told me for the first time that he loves me. I was on top busy riding him and he stopped me and said :'would u go on a date with me?' I didn't answer him he then asked me :'Would u date me?' I didn't know what to say but I was quiet and more focused on the sex, pleasure we having so when we switched positions to missionary he was inside me and I got a forehead kiss. Like wth? What was that for? So when we walked he asked me again outside the motel :'Why don't we go on a date? Go to the movies or something?' I said no we shouldn't because we are fuck buddies but he laughed when I said that because we were high. He felt like a friend to me. We joked about men driving past us and he would show me :'Look that guy was looking at your bum' we were looked at a lot while we strolled at some point he started holding my hand and kissed me in public but we are not a couple. He even joked about us living at this house we walked past he joke about us having our own place lol he told 1me for which car his saving and told me he still needs to save a few months then his getting his car. So when we got into the taxi he hold my hand again and brushed my forearm. And told me before I got off :'And you going to give me a kiss before you get off' lol so I got off and he leaned in for a kiss but when I asked him the night on text if he wants to date me he said :'I would date you. I'd fully date you but I don't wanna rush into things'

I’m 20 yo female. He is a 25 yo male.

This guy was something else. We met online, started dating, really REALLY liked each other, shared that chemistry. We went on 4 dates in a row! Had sex (first time with a guy). Both wanted to take it slow in hopes of getting into a serious relationship. We dated for a little over 2 months.

He expressed that he couldn’t see himself in a serious relationship with me due to the age gap (he expressed his hesitancy early on). He told me that he wanted to stay friends but understood if I didn’t want to. This guy brought so much joy and laughs to my life. We both felt so comfortable talking to each other. On our first date... I danced in front of him.. I never dance in front of strangers. Anyways, point is that we were really into each other but set in for him. He was very honest and broke it off with me after I sensed something and asked if he still liked me. He told me he rather break it off early than later because he doesn’t want to hurt me.

I told him I still wanted to be friends with him and do stuff, as friends. Shortly after, I knew that I needed to go No Contact to process my emotions. I also told him that I would be the one to contact him once I felt ready. It’s been 3 weeks No Contact.

Should I brake no contact? Should I have a plan? Boundaries? I don’t want to keep talking to my friends about this shit... it’s annoying because I can make the decision by myself but I don’t have any direction. This guy was my first everything. I don’t believe in cutting ties and going my separate way. Please any insight will help. Thank you so much.

I’ve been dating this guy for about 2 months. He seemed very interested in me at first. Texted, arranged dates, called me every other day. Had sex early on into the relationship... probably at around date 5. Every date that we’ve had has gone really good. We’ve gone on about 8 or 9 dates. He started to get very busy with work and our dates started to become every so often his schedule aligned with mine. We worked around his busy schedule.

He went away to visit a close family member overseas for a week and communication pretty much went downhill. He snapped me once every other day, but posted on his story. He also left me on ’open’ several times—meaning that he did not respond to me. Once on his trip he wanted to sext, I turned that down because I’m not about that especially when you chose to ignore my messages.

He recently came back from his trip and hasn’t at all made the effort to see how I am doing. No questions about how my week went, no reasons for why he could message me for a whole week. I asked him how his trip was via text and got bland responses in return.

From what I have gathered from him/his behavior, he is either too busy to date or uninterested in me so that being said... here is what I think I should do (5 plausible options):

#1 Break it off/friend-zone him: Text him that I am not going to be a side-priority that he will pursue on his terms... and because of that, we should stay friends (if even that)
#2 Tell him that I want a serious relationship with someone who values me and doesn’t put me on-hold
#3 Ask him if he wants to go out this week, and if he feels hesitant, go to option #2
#4 Only ask him if he wants to go out this week and if he says no (or shows any hesitancy): he ain’t the one, or if he says yes then I will tell him in person how I feel
#5 Ask him what is wrong and why he is acting distant.

This guy would be my first relationship and I feel like this guy is really special and unique... so any advice will help me :)