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Well this guy and I have been talking and opening up to each other. Talking about our past childhood, relationships, etc. he keeps saying it's better if he explains in person on some topics we talked about. So I asked him well you keep saying that, when will we make it happen? We live in different states. I told him I have to wait until I can come with a friend and their schedule, because I'm scared to drive alone. He's told me he doesn't want to rush it and doesn't know much about me but he thinks I should drive alone, it would be better. He also suggested that he will meet me halfway and drive with me 2 hours the remaining time to his state. Then he's like he is coming down to my state this month in March. I asked him why? he says he has friends that always wanted him to come and now he has a reason since he can hangout with me. But if he's not driving with anyone he will still come down and do something. Then yesterday he kept asking me about a past guy I was with. At first I told him I dated. Then I told him I had one long term. I wasn't going to tel him about that one at first but eventually did. He asked me how old the guy was and ethnicity and if I still talked to him. He joked saying so someone did catch your interest. I checked his okcupid profile because I think I'm getting played to the max. He hasn't been online since feb. 26th. Then he wanted me to FaceTime him while he worked on some stuff at home. He has a home and he renovated it. I wanted to see his final design. He told me when I come out I will see it. But then he posted on Instagram so now I've seen it so what's the point? So I'm just trying to be smart about this. I don't want to be played. I was googling and they say a player will try to be very sympathetic with you. Of course I have a crush and I'm just being friendly and not to many feelings. But it's getting there. Are these good signs or am I getting played?

Alright, here it goes, I have a big lesbian crush on my best friend. I told her and she said she likes me back, but when I asked her to be my girlfriend she said she just wants to be friends which I can understand because she hasn't taken on the title of lesbian or bisexual, whatever, like I have. But she told me she doesn't like me any more, but at the same time, gives signals that she likes me. We've kissed before and I felt like I had overdosed on happy pills for the rest of the day (we've also kissed after that) She acts really annoyed at me sometimes because I have low self esteem and seems to get really mad at me for almost anything and for awhile has refused to let me touch her. But I was brave a few days ago and decided to kiss her cheek, she squealed and smiled so I take that as she liked it. Also, even though I was annoying her, she and a few of our friends went to play four square in the parking lot and since there were 5 of us, the person not in a square had to stand in the middle and we'd attack them with the ball. So when it was my turn, she yelled "No one hit her!" pretty angriliy, so no one did despite her being annoyed at me earlier. Then I had a panic attack and she attacked like she didn't care but I had a panic attack a few weeks ago at a party and she held me and let me listen to music and slapped the three guys who had scared me. I asked her if she'd rather me do the V thing with my tongue (She hates it) or kiss her when I want to freak her out. She said she'd rather I kiss her. Sometimes she's very distant and aloof, she doesn't get very close to me and yells at me, then others she'll hug me and be super sweet in the way you'd be to your girlfriend or boyfriend. I'm getting a heck of a lot of mixed signals here, can someone please help?

I'm going to start with a quick summary for those who don't want to read a lot because I need all the advice I can get...
-he liked me, I didn't reciprocate feelings
-it's been three years, I'm now 18, still in "high school/secondary school" and he still likes me or so I assume, since he follows me everywhere!
So for anyone who doesn't want the details, you can post your advice now.
Details:
I started this school 3 years ago and i was in his classes. I noticed he was kind of an outcast and got bullied. Bullying him was commonplace it seemed but it was never physical, usually verbal. I was never rude to him and if he spoke to me I would talk to him like anyone else.
One day my friend refused to sit on a chair after he sat on it. He could hear that she didn't want to sit on his seat and offered to get her a new chair. That is when I jumped in and told him not to and I shouted at my friend for being so rude. I forced her into the chair lol, she felt bad after she new he heard her. ANYWAY, I THINK THIS ACT OF KINDNESS IS WHAT COULD HAVE TRIGGERED HIS CRUSH, but obviously I don't know that for a fact. All I know is everything got weird from here.
The first time I found out he liked me was when my friend told me. I honestly thought it was cute and nice. But then she told me that he said he liked the way I walked? I don't really understand that? Explain if you know what that connotes please or if it's even a normal compliment to give. This all occurred within the first few months. I eventually told him I don't like him back because I don't want to waste his time obviously, but I did it in a nice way. He backed off for like a week. It's been 3 years and he follows me everywhere. My friends and people around me find it uncomfortable as do I. Recently it's been getting worse, and he's not in any of my classes, he is on the other side of the school. I didn't care before because it never affected me but its upsetting me and I don't

So me and my friends went to the cinema together 3 boys including my crush and three girls including me. The journey there and back on the bus was soo funny and fun especially the way back😂 Anyways I always caught him staring at me and me being such a wimp I look then look away I don't even smile or stare back. And when he stares and I stare at him back he doesn't break eye contact and me being bad at making eye contact with him I often look away or down. And also there was a time in the bus where I caught him staring and I didn stare at him for little bit then I asked "what?" And he said oh nothing then looked away. I say he's quite a confident person. And in the cinema he was kind of flirting with me saying if I sit at the end your sitting next to me or you can sit next to me if you want so I say say I don't mind only as long as I sit at the end but ended sitting at different ends😩 So does he like me or not. Because my bestie says it's obvious that we both like eachother we just choose not to show it properly. What do you guys think? I've liked him for 3 yearss and I'm 14