Why Actually Care If Women Like You, Or Vice Versa If You Are Female? Your Life Does Not Depend On Them.

[eightcorners]

First of all excuse me for my English since I am not a NS.I hear so many people whinning about how shallow the society is,or about the hardships they've gone through life.I do not underestimate your opinions,nor I can't feel you.But the whining I can't stand...I have felt racism and dissaproval from the vast majority of the society I grew up,cause I had lots of physical flaws(I have Arthrogryposis Multiplex Congenita),my self-esteem was crushed by how society treated me,and also I can blame myself for bending my head to them.They don't like me I don't care,I am unattractive(and I am)?I simply won't waste anymore time in my life,to try to conform to this society,nor do I want to provide to this society.More or less,there are more understanding peoples and cultures in this world that we live in,and it is up to us to find them,as well as it is up to us to improve ourselves in every level possible.I do not hate women,through I could,and did for a lot of time,but as time comes by,the only thing that really matters is you,the true you,and the immensible,vast number of possibilities and opportunities that are right there!You don't need anyone,and If they do not like you,it is their problem.Do not waste more of your time on these people,and dont scorn,hate,or be bitter to them.They are all slaves to their passions and pleasures,their animalistic insticts and egos.Try to be more than what you are,and do it for you!Read,Speak,Debate,cultivate your values and live by your code.Everything is a subject to change,question,improvement.Our loyalty is a subject to change also.You are not obligated to follow what society wants you to be.If you shed off the cover of civilization,society is still a culture of cavement,tribalistic,racist,phobic and fate-worshipping.Do not hate society,nor subdue to her standards,create your own culture,try to improve yourself and believe there other people out there who also think like this,and have been through harsh conditions in their lives,REAL harsh conditions.Next time you get really dissapointed on something,question yourself ''Is it really worth my time?''.Never scorn,and never be jealous,we've all been from time to time but realise that this is what others decide for you.Take pride in your codes and morality.Take pride in your virtues and skills.Be a better human being and try to share it with people who deserve it.But most of all do what your soul wants you to do,not society,not women,not parents,not anyone.They don't like you,you simply don't care,you don't need them :).The only thing you need is belief in you,and an enviroment of people who put faith in you.I am very happy that through my odyssey in this world,had wonderful parents,and a handful of friends that I can call brothers and sisters.Peace be upon you,always.

[JudgmentDay]

That is some brilliant "thinking outside of the box". I feel more or less the same way like you said, if things don't work out between other people and yourself or myself, then we will just have to move on, because there is no point in dwelling on it if it makes us feel unhappy, miserable and disappointed. We would have to try something new and different for a change.

"You are not obligated to follow what society wants you to be." This. I can't agree more on this, I think a lot of times everyone just end up following the main crowd to try and conform to all the expectations and standards of society all just to fit in, but that does not always work out for everyone. And then they become really down, upset, disappointed and unhappy about it all.

But I think many of them have not realized that. And they've yet to realize that "wait uh minute, do I really have to follow exactly what society expects of me and what standards society had been set for everyone?" Can we go further than that and decide who we are and what we want to do and not really care about or make a big deal about how everyone else in society would judge us just because we choose not to conform to those standards and expectations like everyone else in society had?

[eightcorners]

Jealously and Scorn both are ''emotions'' that are created by comparison. But comparing means you are actually entering society's game of trying to shape you according to it's image. You are becoming indifferent, losing your individual characteristics, your identity. Society even tricks you into thinking that you are doing something for yourself, but it is a actually a sublime process of conforming.

[eightcorners]

Sometimes I get frustrated and uneasy for the fact that I am 21, and only dated once in my life, and had a relationship. This thing can cause me sometimes a breakdown, during nights I feel lonely. But in the night's end... the sun rises. And when I see the sunrise, all thoughts are gone... for even some seconds, I actually feel nothing else rather than the warmth of the first light. And in this I find such immense beauty and happiness, no girl could ever bring me. It is a moment of peace, no one could ever take from me. It is a vision that no other can take it's place into my heart and mind. I don't want to sound like a hippie or a new age cultist, as I am not any of both. Sometimes my friend, try to just ''uncable and disconnect'' from anything around you, and see things as they are, see you as who YOU are, and believe even if the joy of this happens for only seconds, do it again, and again, and as each day comes by, and make YOUR life, an eternal sunrise