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I was seeing a guy who I fell in love with. I could tell he deeply cared about me too. We were basically in a relationship but with out the title (met all his friends, would stay at his house 3-4x a week, cooked together, went on date nights and he told his family about me etc). I asked him whether he saw a future with me and he said definitely that he was at the age where he wouldn't waste time with anyone he didn't see a future with. Basically last year he went through a terrible breakup. After 4 years his ex stole some of his money and changed the locks to find out she was with another guy. I met him at the end of last year and basically he's said I mean so much to him but isn't ready to commit because he hasn't gotten over everything yet from his past. He was extremely upset and said he doesn't want to lose me but I said we aren't on the same page because I do want more.
People keep telling me if he really liked me he would have been with me regardless. When I look at him I see the pain when he says he's not ready just yet. I don't know what to believe? Is what my friends are saying true?

How embarrassing is it to say you spent 18 months with some and can't even remember why you started datin them in the first place?

I was was on the final steps of ending our relationship but he's an electro engineer and I happened to mentioned to a colleague at my new company that his huge name company also provides them with the same laptops we all hate because they aren't Apple and they are supposed to be the best hardware wise in the business.

They are water resistant, he has run with one in hand on rain confidently more than once and solid system.

I loved him but I'm not in love with him because he isn't capable of being in love or letting anyone truly in. I got close but I just don't think he is capable until he reaches his insane financial goals or maybe never. Not judging off our relationship but his pattern since 20. His high school girlfriend brown his heart and never again. His older brother is nearly 40 and doesn't even date.

Anyways because use I've been working on closing that door in my heart and we are only more comfortable together than anything I couldn't even remember what drew us together over other people when asked.

I know the feeling but I can't give the reasons. I remember our first date, second, third, fourth... I remember it was that he was overly honest. And it rained on our second date and he brought an umbrella and we kissed under it.

But I now know he only likes me after our first date upon seeing my car. Pretty, well off and smart but maybe hipster. I hate that if I had been driving the new Corolla I had 6 months prior to upgrading to a Volvo it would have been case closed at date one. He makes more money than me but I hate when he recalls my casual clothing led him to believe I was a broke hipster when he invited me to a pub and I had on nice summer clothes but no heels and a long scarf in case we sat inside.