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I am in my early twenties. Never been in a relationship. Have gone on "dates" through online. They either go no where or last pretty short term/fizzle out. I cannot trust people. I would love to be in a romantic relationship. I am told I'm a pretty girl by others. I'm kind of thick, lost over 60 lbs for the year and am still very insecure in my figure. I know you're supposed to love yourself before you love anyone else. But. I am so caught in my negative thought pattern due to my lack of romantic relationships. I don't go out often and pretty much have no friends. People tend to automatically assume I'm picky. In hs, guys didn't really give me the time of day. Was only asked out once or twice and I didn't like them that much/was scared to open up. I have terrible anxiety and have come to the conclusion that I'm going to end up alone.

My mother thinks I should continue online due to my introvertedness but I believe that is not the best idea. I feel most of the guys on there want casual sex. Anyway, I'm still a virgin too. And at 23, that's pretty sad. Only once in a while will a good looking guy check me out. And the guys that look at me, I have no interest in. It bugs me and I feel so down about this. I really must not be attractive :/. I would love to put myself out there and fall in love but I feel my chances are slowly diminishing. Oh, don't forget that everyone I know has been in a romantic relationship but me.

I have noticed a lot of negative reactions to telling people how you feel-if you feel love. Even though posts are always about being honest with your feelings --unless you're in love, then lie.

If a person says they want to tell someone, people just argue against it when it doesn't even have anything to do with them.
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I think if a person has the will ad hope to tell someone the truth then they should be encouraged. I get if it individuals feel cowardly towards it themselves, but to act like its important wisdom to threaten against it for someone else, is odd.

i always encourage people to be honest especially when they already want to lol

i get if if they have known them 3 days and are delusional. but i've seen posts from people in love for yours , getting responses like well maybe hint you like him / her. or don't expect him/ her to like you you might scare them off.

im pretty sure anyone going to say they are in love has definitely considered it won't be reciprocated, especially if they are discussing it before hand. AND if its not reciprocated, well, isn't it BETTER to know and move on instead of waiting around bc you are afraid to be honest?

its not as if rejection improves over time, you just waste time, falling deeper in love... What is the point?

you certainly get rid of players and sex scavengers, plus opposite of it weakening your position. being honest off the bat takes away controlling element. there is, in relationships an often unspoken threat that someone will be the first to fall or worse SEEM like they have fallen in love and 'you know how people get'. well if you are upfront is no longer a mystery. its there and nothing crazy is happening. they can't hold over you that you might fall in love.