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Everyone fears it at one point, or another.

From middleschool into adulthood.

Rejection.

... but what of are we actually afraid?

My name is Oka, and I'm a professional wingman, for both men, and women. I advise, and assist people in learning how not to be afraid. Before we can address what of we're afraid, we have to discover what fear is.

There are VERY real reasons to be afraid.

Here are some scenarios.

An armed assailant wants your wallet, or your purse. You're staring down the barrel of a pistol so close you can see the caliber. The threat is real, and you have every reason to be afraid.

You're hiking, you're alone, and cross paths with a starving mountain lion. You have every reason to be afraid.

You fall in a tiger pit at a zoo. Zoo keepers are rushing to get tranq guns, and rifles... but the tiger is only five feet away. Be afraid.

These seem outlandish.

Outside of the most extreme scenarios, freak accidents, and unlikely outcomes, odds are in your favor (especially if you're not taking late night walks down dark alleys, or lonely streets; hiking alone , or jumping into tiger pits) that you're not going to end up in these situations. I'm notnsaying these such things cannot hapoen, only that the odds are infantismal that they will.

Fear, by and large is imagined. We as people live life under the guise of "What if".

What if this? What if that?

... but what is "what if"?

What if often leads to fear... and fear is largely imagine. It is an imagined outcome of an unlikely scenario what has not yet occurred, and probably will not.

The good thing about flirting, dating, asking someone out, or revealing your feelings, is that the worse they could do is reject you.

... so what's wrong with that?

Every coin has two sides, and to get to the meat and potatoes of your fears, we have to address hypocrisy. Has someone ever asked you out, and you simply didn't feelcthat same attraction? Have you ever had to reject someone?

By young relationships, I mean relationships under 21.
I’m 18, never been in a real relationship because I can’t take young relationships seriously.
I’ve been in one relationship that lasted 4 months & I don’t consider that a real “relationship” I knew it wasn’t real from the moment it started, until the moment it ended
That’s a whole nother’ story though.

People my age jump into relationships too quickly
I think for a relationship to become successful, you have to already know that person.
You can't just meet them, decide to date & get to know them while you’re “dating”.

Extra
there's this girl named Mackenzie that I was trying to talk to for awhile, She seemed to be what I was looking for physically, so I was getting to know her, glad I did.
It was an online relationship, but she lives in my area
I knew I was wasting my time when she messaged me and told me to “Stop flirting”
Randomly.

She got into a bi sexual relationship with one girl, she was posting about the girl & the post said
“I love you”
At that moment I realized I was wasting my time.
The bisexual relationship ended the very Next day I kid you not.

She dated a girl for one single day.
How am I supposed to take that seriously?
thats usually how it goes though, that a common young relationship