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We've been together for 8 years, and he's the only person I've ever dated. We're kind of engaged, but not really. It's complicated. I just don't feel like a priority to him, and I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to him about it, and he either says he'll try, or that he'll work on things, or he'll do the complete opposite and say I can't and won't ever be his #1 priority and that he's just not capable of putting someone else's needs before his own. I don't know what to do about this, because I love him and I don't want to lose him, but I feel like things aren't ever going to change. I always put him first, make him a priority in my life, and I would do anything for him. If I ask him to do one little thing it's the biggest hassle and he makes me feel guilty for asking. What should I do?


(Also, guys, give me your perspectives on being in a relationship, being in love. Have you ever been in a relationship with a woman where you'd do anything for her? Am I crazy for thinking I should be as important to him as he is to me?)