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Recently my ex and I got into contact. At first she was pretty flirty and was really happy we reconnected.

I took it as a sign she still had feelings, so I asked her if we could try to rebuild our relationship and she said no because of some things I said during our breakup. She said later she lost interest in me. I told her that I didn't want to be friends and it'd be too difficult. She said she understood.

I sent her a message explaining why I said what I did during the breakup, and asked for her to reconsider and she could reach me if she changed her mind.

She '❤️' the message. But said nothing. It's been a week. My friends say she's been giving off mixed signals and she probably doesn't know what she wants and is scared. But she also never took ownership of what she did in our relationship either.

She had started following my social media accounts when we got back together, and she is still following them. Liking posts, and watching my stories.

My friends say that's a good sign, and she may just need time to process what I said and sort out what she wants.

What do you think?

A few years ago I had a coworker in another department ask me out on a date. Thought I hadn't dated in a while, might as well. She changed the plans from getting drinks to hanging out at her place. She gave hints she totally wanted to have sex, but also wouldn't shut up about her ex. I hadn't dated in a few years, so I was disappointed this was my first experience. Plus she still lived at home with a large family that wasn't mentioned.
I left the date and didn't sleep with her, and struggled to schedule another. I gave up. Then she got back with her ex.

For the better part of a year she kept sending mixed signals and would make sure I knew when they weren't together. Continued on and off BS.

We got to a point where we talked and texted again, she gave more hints about wanting sex, even getting all touchy while at work. But she was with the boyfriend still.

After more of the on and off and the conversation always being about the boyfriend, I just don't bother talking to her anymore.

But she's started trying to find any excuse to talk to me and gets very jealous when I talk to any of the attractive female coworkers. She'll even come interrupt just to stop it or try to talk to me.

My friends say two things. She's upset I didn't act on her advances or she's still super into me and wants what she can't have but won't leave the boyfriend due to comfort.

My ex and I broke up in a very overwhelming and difficult way about 8 months ago.
We recently reconnected and i thought I felt there was something there, as it was mutually seemed to be a connection still.

But during the breakup, she said she didn't think she could ever love me and stuff like that. It was devastating and felt final.

But she's happy we reconnected, but I'm conflicted.

I want to ask her if she meant what she said by saying she couldn't ever love me. Cause I don't want to just be friends with her. I still have feelings for her.

Is it bad to just outright say that after one conversation a few weeks ago?