Should I end this relationship?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We live together. He has two boys. I have two girls around the same ages. In the beginning it was rocky. He ended up back with his ex after she refused to leave and shot herself in his house. He let her live there and help with his kids but she says they were together and expecting a baby but she got an abortion. We were still together during those 3 months. I stuck around and don't know why. Now we all live together for the past 9 months. I'm about to have a baby. He doesn't like my teenagers who don't live with us. But I don't like his kids anymore either. They play guns and military, eat all the food, annoyingly bug us, his 7 year old poops and pees his pants, bed and his room smells, his kids have bad hygiene and are always sick. He won't let me help parent them and says they can do what they want. My kids are calm, easy going, just go with the flow. All I do is work then want to hide in the bedroom. We fight a lot. He doesn't want intimacy or sex because he claims he's stressed but still loves me. We don't go on dates. We only watch TV. He is controlling with food and TV. Only what he wants. He fights with me when I want to go see family and friends. I feel alone and insecure. He has been verbally and mentally abusive in the past. He says he wants to kill everyone. He has threatened to take my baby away if we're not together like he took his other kids away and won custody. All he does is smoke weed. Doesn't have a job. He's looking for one though. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or something is wrong. I feel guilty of my feelings. I've tried talking to him and he just says I'm negative and he's never been with someone like that. I feel like running away and leaving but I do love him and wish he'd change. I know he will never marry me. He doesn't stay with anyone longer than a couple of years it seems. I don't know if I resent him for the past or I just can't get over it. Any advice or thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Yes!!! Leave!!! This is not a good person no matter how much you’d like to think he is. The fact that all of you are now living together is just a recipe for disaster. No person should ever be w someone who hates their children. Your children should always come first no matter what unless the kids tried to kill him or something. His ex is controlling him through those kids. Your life is never going to be happy w this type of situation w her around. I’m not even sure if it’ll be happy even if you two lived on your own. You need to realize when something is a lost cause, this being one of them. It doesn’t really sound as though he loves you. Not in the way you live home time you leave before your child is born, it’s only going to make things worse. His children will always side w their mother, at least for now. Which I’m sure she’s telling them things about you to get them to dislike you more. I don’t get why women do that. Get out of there.

[Iron_Man]

This is like the Brady Bunch and what a huge mess can you afford to break it off

[Anonymous]

What advice would you give someone who is telling you this same story? From your own words, the relationship is rocky. Neither of you likes the other’s kids. How will you ever have a healthy family structure that way? He’s controlling. You fight a lot. There is no intimacy. He doesn’t want to marry you. He doesn’t work. He threatens to take your child. What exactly are you hanging onto here? Neither of you could possibly be happy under these conditions and neither can the children. What you’ve described is a very dysfunctional situation. There appears to be no future. I would leave and get your unborn child out of there before that child is touched by any of this.

[AvaOneLasTime]

I wonder, Why this relationship started in the first place...

[Raphaëlle]

I suggest get out of this relationship. He seems immature and could be dangerous.

[IncognitoBandito]

It doesn't look like there are many reasons to stay

[Avicenna]

I don't know why you're still together with him

[AndrésC64]

No offense, but what a shitshow. Get out of there.

[Waldoe]

RUN... while you still can

[In_Trance]

Yea i think so