Do I end this relationship?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend have been together about 7 weeks still early days but he is kind and we get on really well but yesterday we took a picture the other day he was the one who asked me to post it on my social media I said I will if u will he did put then deleted it a short time later I haven't spoke to him about it yet but I deleted it shortly after I noticed he had. I don't really understand why he asked me to post him if he deleted it I was quite happy not to post it as It is still early days. Now I'm thinking is he up to something as he showed me a picture the other night someone had sent of lying in bed watching TV asking if it was me when I expressed I was annoyed about this as clearly isn't my room he said he didn't know who sent it then said it must of been a friend I kind of think he did it to get a reaction out of me to be honest. He is always asking if I'm talking or other guys says he doesn't want me to cheat on him etc his ex wife cheated on him. His ex wife has occasionally been calling him when we are together he always declines said she has severe mental health issues he definitely is divorced as he showed me proof and the divorce info mentioned the exs mental health problems I know these could maybe be genuine situations but honestly I'm kind considering ending this now as I feel it's too much shadey behaviour going on any advice if I'm over reacting before I do?

[Anonymous]

I hate to jump right to suggesting you break up, but honestly in this situation I think it could be for the best. For one, if he’s asking you to post a pic of you two together but isn’t quite ready to do it himself, then of course that is a red flag. It gives the impression that he doesn’t want his ex or anyone associated with her to see. Maybe he’s afraid that he will look like a jerk, for getting a divorce then hopping into a relationship, so it could be a respect thing. Regardless, he shouldn’t be asking you to put your relationship on display if he isn’t ready to, which brings me to my next point. I don’t think this man is ready to be with someone new. It doesn’t matter how much he assures you that he is — actions speak louder than words. What I’m seeing from him is a lot of insecurity and trust issues, which are direct results of what others (or just his ex wife) did in the past. It’s never healthy for someone to be in a relationship when they have not addressed their past trauma, worked through their issues, and can confidently leave that baggage behind. All I see happening right now is you paying for what other women did to him, and that’s just not fair. It’s actually pretty toxic. So moral of this is to get out while it’s still early on and you can recover from the breakup without a broken heart. Yes it would hurt you, because of course you like/care for this man enough to be with him. But he’s got a lot of inner work and healing to do before he can love you the way you deserve and be the man that he needs to be for you.

[OlderAndWiser]

Sounds very suspicious to me.