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Today, my boyfriend (of 1.5 years) texted me saying "i need to talk to u about something"
So I called him and this was our conversation:
Him - honestly, i dont feel comfortable with us anymore
Me - what do u mean?
Him - I dont trust u anymore
Me - why?
Him - u went through my phone when I was sleeping, you called another guy up when u were drunk, u lock ur facebook messenger app and your instagram. Thats a red flag. And u texted another guy few weeks ago but u hid it from me. When i asked to see the messages, you didn't let me see it. That means you're hiding stuff from me. I dont like that
Me - Im not cheating on u
Him - I know ur not cheating on me but ur hiding stuff from me. Even when someone messages u, u hide your phone away from me
Me - Im a private person
Him - U know all my passwords. I dont hide stuff from u. When i saw u locked ur messenger and instagram, I keep thinking ur hiding stuff from me. I dont like that. Next time im going through ur phone and see those messages from that guy u didn't let me see last time. If u dont, we are done. Thats not right. U dont keep things from ur partner. I dont like playing games.
Me - yeah ok u can see all my messages
Him - secondly, u don't talk much. It bothers me. Ur so quiet. Ur not lively. I want to be with someone who talks more. I know this is how u are and I can't change u. I just don't know why I'm still with u.
Me - yeah ok so what u wanna do? Are we still together? U dont see future with me?
Him - we are still together but yeh i dont see u as wife material unless you change your ways. Not hiding shit from me and talk more. One wrong thing u do again like calling another guy up or messaging other guys, we are done. I want to see us in the future but right now I can't. Im forcing myself to still be with u because Im hoping u can change ur ways and hoping u make more effort and hoping u can be more mature
If he doesn't wanna be with me anymore, why wouldn't he just leave me then?
by the way im 22 and he's 27

Have you ever got into a situation that you think your boyfriend is the problem, but in reality, you're the problem?
That's me right now. Let's called my boyfriend A, and the girl he has feeling for B.
I've been with A for a year (we started dating in January) and in September, I started to notice he talked to this specific girl and I warned him that she had feeling for him but he didn't listen to me. I was uncomfortable about it so i started to give him attitude and we started to fight over petty stuff.
When we finally talked about our problem, he told me that he talked to his friend (B) more than talking to me because I gave him attitude, and he started to treat B as if she was his girlfriend (hanging out with her, going to concert, bring her to dance practice,...). When I confronted him about his feeling for B, he told me that he only liked her as a friend but when he posted her photo on his Instagram stories (twice), he always hid me and told me that he knew i would be jealous even though i told him i was cool about it. Plus, he didn't celebrate my birthday (or get me a gift) with me but he celebrated her birthday instead. He put a bunch of heart emoji in her contact, and they never stopped talking (Every single day). B has two Instagram account, one that she posted her personal but the other account, she posted a bunch of photos of her and A. She puts caption like "He's cute", "me and a routine: wake up, play game for 5 hours.", "get a man like him". It was really hurt for me to see those photos but why would he tell me that he didn't have feeling for her but she would post photos as if they're dating? Furthermore, he blamed that this relationship is doomed because of me, and he didn't change or anything. My friends said that i'm really feeble-minded to stay with him but I felt like it's all my fault in this relationship.
P/s: I'm 17 by the way, i accidentally put the wrong age on my profile.