The 17 Things I Learned in 2017!

[Anonymous]

In this myTake I picked up 17 things out of a lot of things I learned this year. Feel free to comment what YOU have learned this year.

1. Put yourself first!

Think first about yourself and yes it's totally fine to say No! Do things for yourself. It's super fine to be “selfish” sometimes.

2. Communication is key.

If something is bothering you about someone or anything that happened, talk to this person. Be calm and kind and say what you wanted to say.

3. I don’t owe anyone anything.

It's my life, my decisions, my consequences. I don’t have to explain to anyone my actions. I just have to live with my own decisions.

4. It's totally fine to make some mistakes.

We even learn from our mistakes so go out and do mistakes! Also here for myself: It's fine to be impulsive sometimes. Do the things you had in your mind. You know you feel better afterwards.

"Don't be so hard on yourself!"

5. It's okay to have casual interactions.

You're not a whore if you sleep with someone you don't love or have a relationship with. As long as you keep yourself and others safe and don't hurt someone and be honest and don't play them, it's totally fine.

6. Don't stress, breathe.

In the end the things we stress over about are actually not that bad like we imagine it in our minds. It's not even going to be relevant to you in a few weeks.

7. The world does not end because something didn't go as planned.

There are other ways to reach what you want. Also sometimes it's better if things don't turn out the way it should, cause there will be something better waiting around the corner.

8. It's okay to have fights with friends...

...and sometimes it's also okay to take a break and try working on this friendship later again...if this is wanted. Also It's okay to let go of some people, sometimes it's even the best to let go of the old and focus on the new. Let go, sometimes your paths separate.

9. Don't let your life be defined by other people.

It's your life and you have the power to decide in which direction your life goes, even if some people have a big Impact, you decide in the end how much this defines you as a person.

10. Stop trying to hide some stuff that happened from your friends.

Talking openly about a lot of stuff can be really helpful. Be more open with the people you trust. Friends are there to help you and listen. Good and true friends.

11. I get to choose if I lay in bed and cry for myself or if I stand up and try to get help and work for what I want in life.

It's my decision. Stand up, bad things happen, so that we learn a lesson from that, but the hell will I let this things keep me on the ground.

"Learning to pick yourself up after going through shit, is such an important thing no one teaches you"

12. Alcohol is not the solution when feeling bad, sad, down or depressed.

13. Take your time to cope with stuff that happened.

Life sucks sometimes and bad things happen to us, but we are not perfect, we need time to heal and grow stronger. Also here to myself: It's okay to have a breakdown in front of others, you're a human being, you're not perfect, we need time to heal.

14. Think positive.

No matter how awful your life looks like right now, don't wait to feel better, stand up and do something. If you think positive you attract positivity.

15. Sometimes we need time for ourselves, take your time, have more me time!

It's so freaking important, take your time for yourself! Don't speed through life, take the time you need.

Take time to make your soul happy

16. Organize and plan your day, week and month.

If you feel like you're wasting your life, start doing something to be active and work on yourself and improve yourself and do good things for yourself. Go out and be productive. Trust me there is such a satisfaction behind planning your week, month and setting challenges …just awesome.

17. Love yourself!...

Unless you have a better idea tho

[Anonymous]

I learned that honesty pays out and I shouldn't hold myself back, if I want to be a certain version of myself I should try working on it now and not later.
I learned that just because a guy tells you nice things it does not mean he really likes you, I need to look at his actions. People lie to get their way.
Working hard pays out, sometimes I need to wait for results though
Love can't be forced, just because I'm ready for a relationship doesn't mean the right person is waiting infront of you, I have to meet him and not jump into things with people I know who are not right for me

[Joelski440]

it's a really good list... I'm so tired of hearing 14 & 17!

14. My past experiences have tough me no matter how positive I think nothing good come of it.

17. Love myself? I can't stand myself! I'm the first person on the people I hate list. I hate myself because I have never been romantically loved, Therefor I don't value myself, if I can't value or love myself how can I expect someone else to love me? Right back to the beginning I go. Never been loved, hate myself, can't find love... around & around I go.

The rest of the list I an put into practice.

[myTake Owner]

Oke well how do you deal with your past experiences? And to loving part, you know this typical sentences "if you don't love yourself how can you expect someone else to love you"
What I personally say here is start first accepting yourself and I personally experienced that love will follow also I was also never romantically loved, guess some things need time and can't be forced

[more2life]

NO to #1.
There is too much of this selfish nature in young people today. Everyone is so entitled and self-centered. It's a serious problem. You will only make people hate you. It's just terrible advice.

NO to #5.
Once again, this goes hand in hand with that selfishness. You are not indestructible. If you sleep around you can ruin your life and lose all respect from the people you care about. It's better to wait until marriage. People that wait live happier lives.

NO to #9.
Yet again, another selfish way to live. Once upon a time, there were these magical things that people used to call CONSIDERATION and COURTESY...

NO to #15.
More selfishness. Human beings are social creatures, and a big part of that is commitment to be there for others and serve your family and friends. This means giving them your time and efforts, and sometimes help. If your children are hungry, your dog needs to urgently go to the vet, your grandmother has just been rushed to the hospital, your best friend has gotten out of surgery and needs help cooking or your sibling is feeling seriously depressed and you decide you would rather have some "me time" to meditate to hippy dippy music and burn incense... You will regret not having been there and will disappoint the ones you love, and in some cases you may lose them forever and not be able to live with yourself.

[MrOracle]

EVERYONE should read this list and take it to heart. These are among the most important lessons in life. Especially the parts that talk about the fact that YOU are responsible for making your own decisions (and living with the consequences), so learn not to care much about what others think - they don't have to live your life; you do!

Folks who follow these pieces of advice will live happier lives - and probably more successful ones as well!

[BraveHeart97]

Can you teach me how to have sex without getting emotionally attached? This is the one thing I hate about myself. I've been cheated on this year and i dont want to love anymore. I don't want to value women on a deeper level anymore. I want to be emotionally stronger. I agree with your other points but I want to succeed on point 5. I want to give up on love. It brought nothing to me but lies and pain and yet I still cling to it's dillusion. Teach me how to break free from this prison.

[Purple_Babe14]

I don't know even no... lets talk about the things I didn't learn:(

[myTake Owner]

I personally would say it`s easy to focus on the negative aspects, but I´m sure there were some positive stuff you learned

[Purple_Babe14]

Lol, I was just saying stupid stuff. Ik I learned a lot... maybe, I think I matured a bit more.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Good Indian learnt that There are some questions you won’t get answers to. Some things may have no logical explanation. Move forward without obsessing over it.

[Guanfei]

What I learned is that no matter what I do and how much effort I put, i'll always be a failure and a loner.

[myTake Owner]

I just want to say, if you want to read this, like trust me lol www.goodreads.com/.../15843166-you-are-a-badass

[Anonymous]

whats that? a dumb cosmopolitan article or something? god what am i doing with my life... .

[myTake Owner]

Guess I should start working for cosmopolitan ;)

[Commander_Courtney]

Interesting, not everything applies to everyone, but I took what I needed to form this.
Thanks for taking the time to share.

[HoneyButterCup525]

This year I grew more patience and have a better sense towards life but it was a tough year some of my dream didn't happen due to hard circumstances but iv finally found some inner peace with in myself and learned to be happier in life.
Hope 2018 can serve me a little better :)

[Lovestar0450]

I learned that you need to have your own back before anyone could help you.

[oOsecret_starlandsOo]

I need to just embrace who I am. 2017 was an epic identity Crisis

[NJ_Casanova]

Looks like you had a Busy year;-)

Nothing new for me... just another year.

[100musicmaniac]

This is soooo true. I think I will make this my wallpaper inspiration... JK, but that would be a good idea!

[SportsFan78]

I need to be more confident in some areas of my life. Like dating, however, this past year all I learned is why I have stayed single, not how to not be a loser with girls and finally get a girlfriend.

[soccerchick4eva]

I learn a lot of these every year but I never tend to remember them for the following year hahaha

[PinkandSparkles]

I have learned that I can have anything I want if I work for it.

[lost_girl2000]

I agree with everything!!! And I would add apart from loving yourself also respect yourself and demand from others to do the same. People that do not respect you should not be around you.

[Debussy2691]

I would add

be grateful/be appreciative
surrender to what is
speak your truth/be authentic

[Anonymous]

I learned that it sucks to have seperated parents. I learned that no one in my family seems to understand what social anxiety feels like, nor do they care. I learned that I'm one of the reasons why my parents seperated. I learned that animals are far better than people. I learned that I don't have to have a relationship to be happy.

[Anonymous]

Some mistakes are okay as long as they aren't illegal, that's for sure! :) great take!