You must look at people as who they are, not as who you want them to be
That new friend you met or that new crush you fell for, you shouldn't expect them to be kind or rude. You should realize that they could be anything, you'll only get to know their true colours with time. They could be nicer than you think or worse than you ever imagined. Try to see them as who they are, avoid imagining sweet scenarios in your head especially if you fell in love for them. So in case if they turn out be nice you'd be happy, and if they turn out to be worse you may avoid heartbreak.
People talk in your absence
If they talk about someone when they are not around, they will definitely talk about you when you're not around. It's okay, you cannot change such things, but you can change what you speak around people. Never talk sh*t behind someone's back, there's a high chance it reaches their ears. Then, there's a higher chance of them talking more sh*t about you behind your back.
If it feels like a "No" then say "No"
Try to avoid doing things that you don't like to do. Sometimes when you are kind and helpful to people they start misusing your kindness. One of my friends tried to push a load of work that he was supposed to do on my back. I somehow managed to avoid doing the whole thing, instead I completed a part of it for him. I was mad at him. That's when I realized that I should say "No" when it's time to say "No". A week or so later someone else tried to do the same and I said "No". They didn't ask for anything else again. Learn to say "No".
Some days you think would be bad may turn out to be a lot better than you expect
I had to participate for a particular event with my family. I wasn't in the mood for it, I really didn't want to go there but I had to. I worried about it for days thinking "Sheesh! Why do I have to go there? It's gonna suck." But actually, it turned out to be much better than I thought. I met some of my friends and loved ones, I was stuck with some problems and I felt relieved and relaxed later that day. And you know, such days may even turn out to be memorable.
Hurtful moments pass away
I woke up one morning with so much pain in my heart that I wanted to sleep for the whole day. I didn't feel like talking with anyone, I didn't want to go out, I had no drive within me to do anything, not even the chores. I felt like I was empty. I felt like a void. But I tried my best to remember similar times from the past when I felt like I'd never get over them but actually did. So, yes, those terrible, gloomy, depressive days, they pass. On such days, tell yourself, "This too shall pass."
Motivation barely comes if you wait for it
You should never wait for it. If you wait for it, it never comes. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's what happens at least for me. You always have to force that first step. You have to lay the foundation right now if you want to do something. Once you take the first step, it'll drive you to do more and you'll continue with it. If you wait for motivation to hit you, then you'll wait for a long time. I should have learned this earlier.
You can start going towards any of your dreams right now!
It may sound unrealistic sometimes. I felt so too. But if you really want to achieve something, you can start working for it right now. I wanted to learn about finance because it's one of the most important things you must learn in your twenties. So I didn't wait for a financial professional to appear out of somewhere to teach me. I searched for books about finance and started reading them. I'm still reading and researching, but I learned a lot more than what I used to know. Don't wait for a perfect time, start doing it right now.
Accepting the truth about yourself makes you stronger
I fell for a girl, but I realized that I don't have what it takes to be with someone like her. I realized that there's a lot I need to improve in myself. It was very hurtful, but I had to accept the fact that there's a lot I need to work on. I have already taken tiny steps to improve myself, and I hope I'd get better with time.
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I hope 2023 will bring all of us happiness and prosperity. I hope you find peace, love and get closer to your dreams in this new year. So, happy new year to you all!!!
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