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Just going to get right to it, I'm not attractive. I have acne, and a pretty good amount of it. Nothing the dermatologist throws at me works. I'm skinny, I workout, but I barely see any improvment. It's very hard for me to gain muscle. Im short, that's it. I also have orange-gold hair, and I occasionally get made fun of for being a ginger. Basically, I got fucked by genetics and puberty. So, the reason I'm telling you all my insecurities, is because it's really affecting my mental health. I'm a senior in highschool and I know I'm young but I'm so desperate for a girlfriend or at least a girl to like me. My confidence is super low also, I feel like people only look at my acne and that's how I'm defined, that kid with a lot of acne. The past 4 years have been hell for me, and I've been so lonely the past 2 years. I've suggested lowering my standards a bit, but it's not like I can like someone I'm not attracted to. Over the summer I worked with the most beautiful girl ever and surprisingly I got a date with her at the the end of the summer, after a few dates, she called it off and wanted to stay friends. I accepted her decision of course, but it hurt me a lot and is still hurting me. I kinda got off topic but do girls really care about those things?

I've been told I show a lot of signs of self-hatred, such as lowering standards of myself, making fun of myself, comlimenting others and insulting myself, and comparing myself to others. The thing is, I don't think I have depression, but I still feel useless, unintelligent, and lacking in every skill. I always run away from how I feel and make a joke about it.

my cousin is pretty self conscious about how he looks since he lost his hair to early balding brought on by TE at 19, he's only 20 just startin gcollege and there's girls he's into but he's worried without hair they're out of his league or won't be interested. I tried tellling him I don't believe no hair lowers his 'league' however I do understand looks matter, yes he does have high standards but I know him and he'd be a legit sweetheart to a girl not a player so I don't blame him for holding his standards high, I just hope to boost his self esteem a bit, so beneath are some pictures from a family vacation I have of him, tell me what you think of him, is he date-able to you? Does no hair put him in a low league like he's worried, or do you think he still looks good enough he can go for what he pleases? Be honest, worst case I just don't tell him (lets hope he doesn't see it in that case as he has GaG) however I doubt itll be bad, still cold honesty is appreciated. and please go just on looks, yeah if you know a guy it can do a lot but just picture if a guy like him approached you at a party or after class etc.

not really sure whats up with the links sorry you'll have to click, and he's about average height 5'10 and works out more than most people I know yet doesn't get much muscle haha, he is in decent shape though

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