Search Results: why girls give in so easily

I have to ask, because I've seen so many questions on this site by girls who will give a guy their number, and then start freaking out because "It's been 8 hours and he hasn't called" "It's been a day and he hasn't called." "It's been 2 days and he hasn't called!"

and so on.

The three day rule wasn't invented arbitrarily to annoy young women. It evolved naturally over time, as the number of days to wait with the highest chances of success in the relationship.

It's a classic case of women not knowing what they want. Sure, they think they want a guy to call right away. But guys know from experience (over generations, if not personal) that if they call right away, the girl sees them as too needy, or that the guy wants them too much, and they lose respect for him. Because a guy who wants her THAT much isn't a challenge.

Wait longer than 4 days, and chances are she's already made plans for the weekend. And if not, she may just say she has. Because it can come across very easily that you're treating her as your weekends backup plan. She's who you call if you couldn't get a date with someone else. And again, no girl wants to think "Yay, I'm his SILVER medal!"

The three day rule survives, because it's optimal. Will it work all the time? Of course not. It'd be the 3 day LAW if it did. Will it annoy a girl so much she won't have anything to do with you? Very rarely. Much rarer than you'd think anyway.

In most cases, it will work just fine. Guys know this, or have learned this. And that's why it's still done.

It seems a shame that young girls aren't taught this too.

I totally expect this to be one of those really long posts that get no answers, but I think that I just need to vent.

There is this girl that I've been dating for several months (a year and a half actually), and she's not really the type of girl that I usually go for. But I really like her and it's so confusing.She is so wonderful, but there are things that worry me, and I don't know if I'm just being a d*** or what.

The main thing is her lack of confidence, she never thinks that she is good enough for me. She is always downing herself , and I don't know how to help... I've tried to alot! And I don't know how to help her to develop into the kind of person that she wants to be, I;m afraid of giving her more of a complex...

Which brings me to my next point, and the point where I start to feel like a d***... She is super insecure about her looks. I've always been attracted to and dated girls that are extremely femine and know how to do their hair and makeup and have a really rocking sense of style. Well, she doesn't know how to do her hair , she only wares eye makeup and she doesn't apply that well( always caked on and not natural looking), and as far as fashion goes I'm at a total loss... I don't even know how to help her get it... And I don't understand why she doesn't because she is artistically inclined... I try to help her and she says that she tries really hard, but to me it doesn't look like it because her efforts are so minimal, I think that she is afraid to try. The sad thing is I think that with a little work she could easily be an 8 or a 9, possibly a ten. She has an amazing body, she works out all the time and has really sexy girl abs and a nice shape. I just don't know how to help her with out sounding like a d***... And it's getting kind of... embarrassing ( see I said that I'm a d*** =[ )... And also I always see other girls that I'm attracted to that have all of these things going on...

Another thing that worries me is I don't seem to have chemistry with her. I really really like her and enjoy being with her, but there very rarely is that spark. She doesn't flirt in a way that gets me going, and her body language is always so subdued and un-attractive. She is really smart, but she's to afraid to put her opinions out there because she's afraid of ridicule.

I don't want to hurt her more or give her a complex by telling her these things, but I don't want to lead her on if we are not right for each other either. I'm so confused because I'm really attracted to how sweet she is and to a lot of aspects about her... But I don't know if she's right for me... or if I'm right for her... I'm so afriad I'll be more harmful then helpful...

So what do you think, is she just not my type, or am I just being a d***. Also should I try to help her change (she's not happy with ho she is) , or should I tell her she's fine and try to except her how she is... I'm really confused, I'm gonna add a poll too, because people are more likely to vote.