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I have known this girl for a couple years and here is the scoop. She has tried to get my attention and talk to me since day one. Be around me and the whole nine yards. She flirts with me. Laughs at my jokes and says my name a lot. Teases me playfully compliments me a lot. Wanted selfies with me and to get closer to me. Blushed around me, got red and couldn't look me in the eyes but smiles and hides her face. She got shy and needed her friend beside her to approach me. Secretly stare at me. Her friends teased her because they'd push me to her and one would look at her and say her name when I entered a room. Hold long eye contact and smile then never stop even when I break it. Very openly flirted. Well she did that for months behind a guy's back and she never posted anything with him on fb and kept things on the down low. Well I see her around a year later she is laughing in a car loudly and trying to get my attention. I look over she makes eye contact, dips her head and raises her eyebrows then makes a big smile. Makes eye contact then never stops. I ignored her and did not continue. I broke eye contact and didn't look back did not approach her. Well she was already dating this guy but shown no signs on social media and did this to get my attention and upset I didn't approach. After this has an attitude because I did not engage or approach her. She did this behind the back of a guy she started dating and was on the down low about him.

A question that has always kinda interested me, A lot of guys will tell you that girls want a jerk, a guy who doesn't care about them, others will tell that no that is far from the truth and you can always be kind a get girls , not nice but kind, as in a person who genuinley wants good and is not faking it to reach his goal... dont get mr wrong though iam not saying weak or doesn't stand up for himself iam saying, kind and good.

I had 2 gfs, both cute, both very nice (well the second kinda hot and cold but she was still nice ) and i absolutly adored that quality about them, they were laid back like me and really nice and kind... and they chose to date me... girls usually fine me very good looking and are not shy about it but iam far from a bad boy even though i look like one and can act like one if iam super pissed (uncommon though) , i think twice before doing something cause i understand that sometimes people are going through a rough day/week and they aren't being as*holes just cause... even when my ex whom i truly had strong feelings for decided to end things, i was cool and nice about it and wished her good luck and assured her that its all good and its not always meant to be.

sometimes i doubt myself and wonder why i do what i do, other times iam genuinly satisfied with how i react to such issues, how iam extremely loyal and faithful ( i dont even hug another girl if iam dating someone... well i dont like hugging random peopel in general but still ) and aim to be a good person.

my question is pretty simple, assuming the guy is not a loser and the physical attraction is there, is being kind and good a must, a plus or a deal breaker?