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People make me feel like something is wrong with me because I'm 28 years. old and not married, especially in my Latino culture.

I've been in abusive relationships, so I'm not in no rush in getting married even if people think that I should hurry. I just want to heal from past trauma and continue to learn to love myself as long as it takes. I rather wait long than marry the wrong guy. I'm currently a graduate student at a top school. I'm the first in my family to graduate high school and pursue higher education, so education and bettering myself economically is a priority.

Although I believe that my life is heading in the right path, people seem to see me in a negative light that I'm not married nor have children.

They say I'm pretty and that no guy is going to want me if I wait too long... I get it, but what can I do? I don't want to marry just any gut that gives me attention just to make people not talk or because I feel lonely. It's hard to find marriage material people to marry in general.

Why do people keep asking if I'm married... is it because societal pressure on women is hard on us?

Do men get societal pressure to marry as much as women?

Thank you :-)

This may not be the best place to ask for this type of advice, but please help if you can. 3 YEARS AGO: my widowed mother was emotionally manipulated into marrying someone who she met through a deceitful “friend”. Let me explain; my mom’s best friend’s EX husband (who we’ll call CACTUS) contacted my mom about a potential “HUSBAND” (PRICK) for my mom. Her, being lonely, accepted PRICK’s number and they started chatting. I didn’t think anything of it since she tried to find romance countless times in the past :/ as you continue reading about her situation, keep in mind that PRICK lives on the east coast and we live on the west coast! Literally 2 weeks after they found out about each other’s EXISTENCE, CACTUS and PRICK flew out to the west coast so that PRICK and my mom could meet. When my mom laid eyes on him, there was no denying that she fell in love. ESPECIALLY when he proposed to her! He revealed that he only married her so that he would get his green card (not for love or to grow old together) and FORCED her sign a contract that basically criminalizes her too (it says that she’s aware of the fact that it’s a false marriage, so if she reports him, she’d get jail time as well and he’d get deported back to Uzbekistan). He also has a lawyer on the east coast who’s in on the fact that they have a false marriage and she gives him “advice on how to make their marriage look real” (like moving in together~which only lasted for a year, and was miserable). We’re sick of all his games and the lies we’ve had to deal with! He’s threatening her life and our family if she divorces/leaves him! It’s been three years and he’s done nothing but treat her like filth and my sister and I have helplessly witnessed it all happen. Any time I try to stand up for my mom, he says my opinion doesn’t matter since I’m only 17. How, if possible, can my mom SAFELY leave him? He deceived us KIDS into thinking we’d have a dad who actually cared about us, and that emotionally hurt us.