Search Results: what do players go after

I don't want to sound superficial or conceited, but I've experienced this from men.. I'm wondering if some men who are average looking, nerdy, not jocky or player like at all, but the shy, "not too many woman" kind of guy who prefer to stay inside and aren't as social, etc.. If they would not want to date a woman who has a lot of guys after her and is very attractive? Do guys actively think about that? As in, "why would I start something with her if she has all these choices and I'm just some other dude she'll leave in a couple weeks." So they don't start anything even if the girl shows interest and initiates or tries to be with the guy?

And if this is a thing, what is essential for the woman to do?

MY example is I met a guy online who is nerdy. I'm attractive, I have a really pretty face and I have guys after me a lot. I'm not stuck up, it's just how it is. We are friends on FB, and I get a lot of likes and comments from men on Facebook who may flirt a little or strike up a convo on my posts... And this guy messaged me asking about one of the guys (he was just a friend) and he went from interested to "you're not what I'm looking for and you'll lose interest in me in 2 weeks" and he wished to say goodbye. Another guy saw me tagged in a post of a guys on Facebook, it wasn't anything flirty.. But then he told me I'm "too pretty" for him and hasn't spoken to me since. All these guys I haven't met in person, and I haven't done anything to change their opinions besides when they see some comment or something on Facebook by another guy... And I won't even respond to those posts. I don't get it. Do they think I'm playing them or something and just move from guy to guy?

I'm wondering if these are just words or lines, but I've had many guys tell me I'm a heartbreaker or look like one, and that it would be stupid, "shooting themselves in the foot" stupid to start anything with me. The arrogant, or players are what I have after my tail frequently, but then the actual nice and quieter guys I'm interested in, probably less "lady killers" in terms of looks, never take me seriously. I'm not an annoying dumb attractive woman either. I'm intelligent and fun to be around. I don't see why I keep failing with the guys I go after. I don't mind taking initiative either, actually I usually do when I find a guy I actually like. My type is always the quieter reserved, spends most time alone, type of guy. And they show me interest but never take it further, or give me really bad mixed signals or go extremely slow to the point where I take it as disinterest. Is there such thing as being too attractive for some guys? Like they think you're just on some power trip and will like them for a couple of weeks then trash them? Because I had one guy tell me we shouldn't continue talking because I would just fall out of feeling after a couple of weeks anyways. (He did come back a month later and has been after me ever since, but I didn't give him a chance because I thought what he said and thought was very shallow).