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So I've been seeing a lot of this lately, particularly in terms of how one should/shouldn't date, and honestly I thought we had dispensed with this kind of nonsense ages ago. The idea that one needs to have preference for their own "race" because if not, you are somehow shitting on your ancestors and have no pride in your race. I find that in the 21st century, this kind of thinking really should be abandoned. Personally, I don't have much of what is called racial pride. I'm not proud to be black, because i don't take pride in things that I had no hand in doing, or things that took no effort on anyones part to really accomplish.

I replace the term racial pride, with racial acceptance/appreciation. I accept myself being black, and I have an appreciation for the fact I am black and for others who look different, as it doesn't change my opinion about them one way or another. But when it comes to dating, I don't really feel obligated to have a preference for black women, like at all. I don't really have a preference for any race actually, as I tend to judge what comes my way on an individual basis. But I don't feel like I'm obligated to go out of my way to give women from my "racial group" a chance. If I like you, that's different.. but if I end up with someone who doesn't look like me whatsoever, that's within my right, whether it offends you or not.

I do believe that people have the right to have a preference for whoever they want, whenever they want and as exclusive as they want when it comes to who they date/marry. If they want to exclude a whole group of people from their possible dating pool, that's on them, and that's their right. Any consequences of that would be on them, but they aren't necessarily racists/self-haters for it. You like what you like.

The concept of racial pride only perpetuates the idea that there are multiple races to begin with imo, which isn't scientifically accurate. Feel free to comment and answer the poll

Okay, about 3 months ago i started txting a girl. we are both incoming freshmen at a small christian college. we never met before 3 weeks ago. but we txted all summer. I liker her but I'm shy and not confident enough to ask her. And moving to college has been hard for me. I don't have many friends and very rarely hang out with people. I lay in bed all day after class, just bored. I want to have friends and go out and do stuff, but I was bullied in high school and so I'm to shy, scared, not confident enough to go and make friends. But the girl and I still txt, and last night we txted and i asked how she was doing and stuff, she said she was okay, and kind of explained her feelings, then she asked me and I said I was alright, but I don't have many friends. She said that she doesn't either, but then she went on to say she is not a loaner and she a couple of friends. So today I am just very lonely and sad, I think I am depressed and I feel like she is the only person I know enough to talk to about my situation. So is it a bad idea to open up about my feelings (cause I feel like I need to talk to someone) to a girl I like and want to ask out? I don't even know if she is interested in me or what she thinks of me, she has called me a great friend on multiple occasions. So would me opening up to her blow my chance of asking her out? As a girl how/ what would you do if a guy friend talked about his feelings in a deep way.