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I am a virgin and never dated, though i'm 20. long story doesn't really matter now. Anyhow i became acquainted with Toby 23 months ago. He asked me out but at the time i thought that meant sex i didn't realize you could just date and get to know each other, so i said no. We have spent a lot of time together bc of mutual friends. We have ended up around each other a lot and shared some personal moments before things got weird. After it became awkward i figured its bc he has feelings for me, OR bc he realizes i have feelings for him and is uncomfortable. I have not been able to talk about my interest bc my feelings are stronger than i want, and i was hoping they'd die down a bit then id ask him out casually. Im pretty much in love, i don' treally care about the precise definition, i just know id feel his absence profoundly and i can't befriends bc i am self conscious about how i feel. I guess if i thought he was ok with my feelings i could befriends but i might not like it.

Anyhow bc of how i feel i reject other guys but i have not done a thing about Toby. and i realize im stuck. I did not mean to halt anything but thats happened. I don't think id feel comfortable dating knowing how i feel knowing it might bother him, bc id feel pressured to hide or id be at the mercy of how he 'might' feel. i want to be in an honest situation esp since its my first experience. So, i will either just date other people, OR tell him how i feel and see if he wants to date. I don't really care about rejection bc i think it'd be better than this. I just know once i tell him ill most likely feel silly but not bc of rejection , but bc love is awkward. I think id feel worse dating others without him even knowing, bc if he did want me hed just feel like i dont care.

Personally, I'm a person who lets bygones be bygones. Till now even if someone has very deeply offended me, they have never inspired feeling of revenge within me.

But one of my ex-friend used to talk about how he was wronged and he would give me explicit details on how he'd like to take his revenge from the person who wronged him.

Although I never told him, this bothered me somewhere. I thought it propelled negativity and wished he would let go. But maybe enacting revenge could give him closure and put his mind at peace, as he was consumed by this intense desire to get even.

This was a bit scary for me because it made me wonder : If my friend is capable of such thoughts towards someone else, how can I trust that someday it won't be me he wants to seek revenge on? (If according to him an action of mine should result in revenge)

Therefore after sharing friendship with him, I've realized I'm less inclined to trust someone who desires revenge. Because people don't treat you differently from how they treat others.

So,

― Have you ever been bothered by your friend's desire for revenge?

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Side Note :
Although I've included poll options I'd like it if you guys shared your opinions too! :)