So I wrote a question concerning this topic earlier, now I figured it would be more suitable as a Take.
Dating can be fun and exciting, however this new age dating has become more of a game, people come off sites with wounded self esteem, anger, confusion and sometimes shame as a result of someone they hardly knew. To be quite honest, if many of us looked at the positive, while not taking it so seriously, it wouldn't hurt so much. I think we just don't accept disappointments, but what fun is life if it's always predictable?.
Some mistakes were fun while making them, some hold fond memories and others can have irreversible damages, and that is why I want to share some experiences with you, to help a lot of people here understand the truth of what I know about dating online.
It's not that serious, you're meeting strangers over your computer.
People have become more pretentious since the world has become more superficial, this means more con artists, liars, players and wanna be heart-breakers. When you find these people sending mixed signals and wasting your time, it's not you, it's them. Some of them are catfish, if it's them they could have major self esteem issues, so they crutch theirs by breaking yours, or might sense you're a no nonsense person so are sparing you the trouble.
It is easy for someone to lose interest online as they might be conversing between two or more sites, you might get lost in all of that, it happens. Whatever the case, it is just someone you met online and it's probably for the best, trust me, sometimes fate is trying to save you from major disappointment.
Feeling used after pouring too much into someone only to get ghosted? Check out how dumb I have been.
My early online experience were kinder, because the internet was a friendlier safer place. I did my first webcam sex with a guy named Steven, I crushed on him because he was a nerd and I'd never met a guy like him in real life. He never disrespected or recorded me, but he wrote me a song. DO NOT TRY THIS TODAY, AS I STATED SOME STUPID THINGS CAN BE FUN BUT HAVE CONSEQUENCES !!!!! Unless you don't mind taking risks, go ahead but then what would be the point of searching for love if you are going to act reckless?.
I hear of people complaining about being ghosted, most guys online will ghost you after you give him nudes, or have webcam sex with him and no it's not because you suck or wasn't hot enough. They are jerks preying on your vulnerability of craving affection. FOR THE MEN, some girls are looking to make you feel bad for them, so you will send them money, some of these girls are catfish or could have you robbed and killed. The internet is more diversified now, with multi measure for internet accessibility. You have all types of psychos here. Who knows, you might not even be talking to a girl
I have met four guys online that I fell for, the last was a disaster and I hate to say some guys here told me not to rush, but that was a waste. The one before was my longest most serious but I think he has BPD, another I never met in real life but had mood swings and a hot and cold behavior that left me drained so I called it off. Aah and my first love at nineteen from Myspace:) oh I loved him so, we are still friends. We had protected sex on the first date, yup, I know.....risky.
The one I met after I broke up with my long term boyfriend, was on tagged, it was an instant connection that was creepy, too creepy to explain, it started with him wanting to donate sperms to me. Then he said we should be married but he will just be a donor if that's all I wanted.
We started to like each other, he never acted manipulative, but was so charming I sent him a video of me performing sex acts with my toys, after a good while of communication, he a day, after that changed mood again.
I was never worried about the videos, but I felt drained and stupid about trusting someone who seemed unstable. He made me cry because we actually started using LOVE to describe what we had.
I cut him off the last time he tried to reconcile, but remember I sent a total stranger videos of me doing the dirty. Be careful girls, sometimes you do not know a person even years after living with them, let alone someone online.
Learn from my mistakes, online dating mistakes and signs to look out for.
First of all.....plenty of you need to get out and off the computer anyway. I see many pretty girls here and men who are decent looking who waste their times on laptops looking for the one. You might say why am I here then? shouldn't I get out more too?. I am thirty and lived so much already, trust me when I say, I. have. lived... so I am burned out. I will go out to find someone soon when my business is complete. I am confined because of work and most places I have outgrown, so now I must find grown up places to meet my type.
There is nothing wrong with keeping online connection, even GAG is a great place to interact, learn new things and stay informed about people in other parts of the world, but think it's sad that young people are confined to their devices, developing social anxieties and all types of disorders that I think is in their heads anyway, sorry for seeming unsympathetic, but it's true.
You have youth, something I took full advantage, while you will regret it as the days pass with you online trying to get strangers behind your computer to notice a fraction of the real you.
While you go out to meet real people, keep your options open by staying connected but look out for these types of predators online.
Men/women who seem so perfect, it's as if he studied your profile and switched up to match.
I Have met at least two people who have done this, it is pathetic and if someone is willing to start out a relationship with lies, that person is very dangerous. Plus habitual and elaborate liars frustrate their own selves since they can't stop lying, it will be your fault and you might end up hurt even physically when they explode. Still keep an eye out, don't be paranoid, you might have really met you twin soul, but there's a higher possibility it's just a psycho that studied you
The guy/girl with the impressive profiles that don't match their conversations.
Everybody online now has a bachelor's, again lying, signs of a bad person. Saying they are well traveled, well educated, but have poor grammar, like kindergarten bad, and no personality, plus things they say just don't add up. Most of all if they act too shy, someone so established and outgoing will hold a fluent , solid conversation.
Pictures unrelated to their job or pictures that are too professional.
Gosh, like I'm a Camgirl but I don't go on dating sites trying to pick up clients. Technically, I am a model but I dress normal and might throw up a bikini pic since I have a nice beach body. If they are a model, then you should see the agency information in their bio. I see some sexed up pictures that scream, I am a CATFISH which mainly the case or I'm here for narcissistic reasons and probably won't respond. Not only that, I just think it's pathetic, forced and impersonal. Take real pictures of yourself being you, which is more inviting.
The "Kevin Federline"/"Beiber" in his bad behavior/wild party girl type.
Those poor things don't know who they are, and are a part of the trying too hard squad. Nothing wrong with fun, but please cut the overkill. They will embarrass or insult you, even if you feel bad for them and try not to judge. Some girls maybe the young ones, will genuinely feel attracted to him and will get hurt. I am not judging you but I get sometimes these guys might be cute, have a nonchalant attitude like he doesn't care, but oh he does care lmao.
The men who talk to her usually are trying to score anyway, but just remember, these girls are usually looking for someone to trap.
They hurt themselves trying to think, so they'll hurt you too. He's not a bad person, he's just not a very good one. OH and you can catch him saying stuff like, my swag's on 10, I party all weekend. He also is rich in life, an entrepreneur with no real hobbies but partying and he's also the type to always be shirtless, he's gonna catch a cold. He doesn't even care about himself, unless you plan not to get attached and have fun with him, don't hurt yourself honey.
No information, low information profiles.
They are usually catfish or not looking for anything serious. Sure, you could just be fed up and took everything down. But take it from me, when you're serious about meeting someone you will take the time to fill out the fields, unless your agenda is otherwise.
They could be hiding something or just want to hook up.
The suave, casanova type who also wants you to trust him even though you don't know him.
It's plain and simple, anyone that persuades you to put yourself at risk, or makes you uncomfortable for their selfish gain, doesn't care about you. Those kinds usually are bad people, every time they get away with tricking you, they gain like a new life in their game and more boost to do more damage to others, take their power by cutting them off.
Yes they will call you paranoid, un-trusting, and make you feel bad for protecting yourself, but no one who cares about others would be that way. These types usually also have personality disorders, pity them but also protect yourself.
Fellas if she' asking for dick pic and trying to persuade to to get sexual over cam, you're probably getting set up and it's a dude. Unless you see her two way, cam to cam.... it might not her or even a girl
Technology is amazing and a vital part of modern civilization, but don't let it control you, control it. The people behind their laptops shouldn't make you feel small, many times they aren't who they say they are. It's not that serious.