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I wish I did nt but curiously went through his phonr while he was sleeping. And found an xvideos account which we both have but I dont ever message or return the messages from users of the website. Why would I? I know where it is going to lead to and so I just dont initiate. But he messaged other users men and women incessantly. Saying some pretty raunchy things that made me feel pretty hurt. I found the same situations with his emails- craigslist casual encounters- emailing people on there as well as getting all these invitations from random online women profiles. Honestly I dont care that he gets these. Its complimenting. But he gives out his phone # and I'm not cool with that. I've talled to him about it and he said he woildnt do that anymkre and when I became suspicious a few weeks of trusting his word I found there had been no change from before. We fight now over literally nothing. He constantly changes hisclogins password d's and even screen locks. At one point he let me know how to access everything now he hides it from Me. He became guarded and sometimes he shuts down and is emotionless. I feel us drifting but I'm still in it 100. We are trying nd the fights become more often nd more violent. We want t be together but I don't know what to dp, how to act or Deescalate the fight when it happens. I even have begun to get crazy nd I never do that- manic actions. I need advice. He is worth fighting for but how do i fight correctly? In find I do kiss his ass nd he only gets further. Should I put on the don't care mask nd bring b out the little bitch instead of kissing ass? I'm desperate help!!!