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I have been with my significant other for almost 13 years, married two children. Three /four years ago he started messing with dating sites I forgave him took over a year to fully heal. Mean while always feeding my self lies and happiness.... I just realized that... I had no idea I was so lost until my neighbor messaged me.

Since we had moved he needed to tell me something he always wanted to. And mind you I had a attraction but never ever let that known vise versa. Put blinders on. We would talk about bullshit while our kids played outside together (he has one daughter, and a fiancé of 14 years.) So there was nothing there except oh the landlord still didn't fix this or whatever.

So he messages me to tell me he has loved me since the first time he met me. He has always wanted to tell me but didn't want to cause awkwardness. I respect him for that. Since just talking more and more, friends, understanding how much we are alike and our lovers should be together lol! Because they're identical. We always both have had friction in our relationship. It wasn't until we started talking more that we realized we want to be together feels so normal feels so right. He's ready, and so I am just scared of hurting my husband. But I need happiness to! And realized that we were just both playing the role to keep our family together. But want to make our family our own now. Any thoughts or suggestions? I mean no matter what it's going to be hard, but I know our children 4,5,6 all girls lol but they're like best friends. Will be happier because we will be, and tension in the household will no longer be there.

Thank you, and so sorry so long tried making it as short as possible.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and have been planning on moving in together in about 4 months. We had plans of marrying each other, having kids and family. We have had lots of hardships but we are good together. We had to fight for our love with my parents since they are traditionally conservative Asian parents and didn;t approve of my relationship with him because he is not the person they want me to be with. But our love still stayed strong and finally taking that next step of moving in together. Then I found out this morning that he got really drunk last night while being out with the guys (he went out of town for guys trip) and kissed another girl and tried to meet up with her afterwards but couldn't find her so came back to where he was staying. He apologized and started crying when I told him that we can't be together since this is not the first time he meessed up. Just 6 months ago I found out that he was inappropriately talking to other girls, flirting and such but never was physical. He apologized to me then saying he will never flirt with another girl and how much he loves me. We worked it out and he was good for 6 months- he lets me look at his phone or ask him where he is going and we have been doing more couply things and hanging out and such. and now this happens. He feels very remorseful and started crying saying he couldn't lose me and he will do whatever it takes to make it right. But I see a pattern of him talking to girls just getting worse. HE is a very friendly, out going guy and can talk to anyone, guys or girls he will make friends with. I believe that he was super drunk and was no thinking and made a mistake of kissing another girl, but I cannot trust that he won't do this again in about few months. Do I forgive him for being super drunk and give him another chance since we have been together for so long and we love each other? I am leaning towards just moving on, making a break-up since I'm not sure how to trust him anymor