Before you begin reading this I just want to tell you that all this is based my own personal experience and general knowledge, it really really worked. My crush dumped me badly and I followed these 8 steps. A month later he was crawling on my doorstep asking to get me back when a month ago he wouldn't even text me a goodnight. At that time I was over him surprisingly, but the revenge was just sweet I must say. Goodluck !
1- Let out your pain and anger
"I'm not crying over him I don't care nobody needs to know about this" WRONG. We are all human, we all experience heartbreak, we all cry, we all wonder if we were ever good enough, if we were not that great for him. Cry let your sadness out, console a friend, empty your heart, and release your feelings. The next day you will wake up stronger and better than ever. Crying and missing are just parts of moving on.
2- The No Contact Rule (Which most girls fail at 90% of the time)
NEVER EVER EVER contact a guy who broke up with you. Even if it was partially your fault, even if you know he still loves you, even if you miss him and fear he might move on. Don't forget "HE BROKE UP WITH YOU". HE let you go and HE gave up on you. If a guy loves a girl he will always find a way to make it work no matter what. He will never let her go and he can not imagine her with someone else. Wait for him, be patient, give him space to think about you and miss you. Guys need time to realize their feelings to realize the value of what they lost. Let him go like ": Why didn't she talk to me yet? Is she over me already?" Let HIM be the afraid one not you. Prove him wrong surprise him, show him that you can live without him and he should not let you go again. Do the unexpected...
3- PLEASE no sad quotes and pictures or statuses!
Been there done that and trust me its stupid! Imagine you were the guy and you broke up with this girl. The next day she starts posting sad pictures and quotes hoping that she will trigger something within you. Your reaction? "Lol" Imagine though she never posted a word about it, not even a sad tumblr picture. As if you didn't even breakup! Your reaction? "What the hell? :( " I know you want to show him how dissapointed and angry you are or that you moved on with quotes like "I let you go and Im happy bla bla" all these quotes are a no no. The best revenge baby is when you dont care, when your silent. It kills them.
4- What can you show?
Posting a picture with one guy on Instagram or going out with a rebound just to make him jealous will not make him jealous. It will just be obvious and hurt the poor rebound in the end while making you want your ex more. Let everything flow naturally. As if the breakup didn't happen but as if you are back to single you now and free to do whatever you want. Your life before you met him. Go out with friends, post pictures in different places, go camping, hiking, clubbing, to the beach, SMILE ! Kill him with your happiness, have fun and show him that you are. And if you really do like someone new ( NO REBOUNDS) then yes go out with him! Dont go out only because you want to go like "in your face" no go out block him and really enjoy yourself. When you're having fun naturally thats when trust me a guy knows you are moving on and he should take you back quick.
5- Distance yourself from his friends
If you guys have mutual friends. Distance yourself from them a little. Go out with new groups and meet new people. Don't let him know what your up to from mutual friends. Be a mystery and if they do ask you questions (which trust me will get through to him) just answer briefly and vaguely, don't go like yeah I'm going out with someone new or I've moved on. NOTHING. Don't let them guess what your thinking and if you are or are not over him. If he shouldn't know they shouldn't know either. "We don't know what she's up to these days" best thing they could tell him. AND OFCOURSE DO NOT ASK ABOUT HIM
6- Change Improve Workout
Let the next time he sees you be the time where he bites his nails of regret and drools over you like a puppy while saying "WOW LOOK WHAT I LOST IS THAT EVEN HER?" Cut your hair, dye it darker or brighter, get a small tattoo or maybe even a new piercing, change your style, get a tan etc... Most importantly WORKOUT! Let him wish he still had dat ass ;) Become BEAUTIFUL become that girl who knows her ex can't find anyone better than her.
7- Time for the Face Down - ALWAYS IGNORE YOUR EX (Shouldn't it be the opposite? NO)
Nothing kills a guy more than a deflated ego. If I see him I'm going to kill him with my kindness and just talk to him normally as if nothing happened or wave to him from across the room or smile or be the mature one in this and say hi first. NO NO NO NO. Ignore the hell out of him like he was just some wall walking around looking hot. Don't look at him dont stare at him don't wince or get angry if you see him with other girls. Just act like you don't care and like he was a complete random stranger in the club/or wherever you guys might meet. If HE says hi first just smile ( dont talk) and walk away. Please remember what he did to you how he let you go. Don't go all weak and I know seeing him face to face is the hardest part. But I swear it will all be worth it later. Also I prefer if you guys met in person one month later just so that everything would be clear and not fresh out of the beakup. Until then follow the steps above and avoid seeing him. When you are really ready, confident, better than before, ready to see him with someone new, then go ahead and see him.
90% of the time after youve followed these steps and seen him. He WILL talk to you. Maybe a few days after the event or maybe the same night. Just remember be patient, dont care, act mature, be classy, dont give a puck, and he is going to come running back.
Remember girls though while following these steps and when he does want you back remember this :
Be with someone who knows exactly what they have when they have you. Not someone who will realize it after they've lost you.