I have asked two questions regarding my boy best friend but it's time I want to know how to make him fall in love with me. He and I are very close. Before I fell for him, he used to tell me about any girl he liked. He would give me details about her (her name, her picture). But ever since I liked him and my attitude changed with him, I feel like he knows I like him. He mentions a girl who he said has a rare name that starts with S; my name starts with A and it's also very rare. Now I don't know if he said the "S" to cover any suspects I have on him or he actually has a girl he likes. I tried to ask her name many times but he said he won't tell yet, he would've if he didn't suspected I like him. He makes me so confused. Sometimes when I think it's me who he likes, but then he changes his statements. I'm telling you, he is a green forest. But what he is doing right now, is not cool. He stills acts like my best friend, like the funny casual convos I usually have with him. Him calling me by dumb words like we used to before I fell for him. I really want us to work out. We will be going to same college but what if he finds a more perfect girl? What if he never falls for me? What if something never happens by the way us? I'm so scared, I don't want to lose him :( even as my best friend. I just want him to fall in love with me, become obsessed with me like I am.
He probably likes you and he probably doesn’t know you like him, you should find a time and tell him how you feel…. love isn’t easy and you shouldn’t hold being scared of losing him as a reason not to tell him or not to try with him, or you’ll end up losing him ether way……if you do manage the courage to say something make sure to put the effort in don’t let that fear of if it doesn’t work out you’ll lose him take over or you’ll end up losing him as everything focusing on it
i had a similar experience and it cost me and my girl best friend our friendship, she told me twice on separate occasions she had feelings and both times she held that fear of losing me so much that when we would take that leap to be serious she’d freak out and end it bc of her being scared and it hurt a lot bc I don't know she was my best friend and i tried to give my heart when she was to worried to lose me and only focused on the chance of losing her best friend she shut down and it costed us everything bc I felt used and everything became a issue bc she was dead set dating would end everything but she wouldn’t let me be with anyone and we quit talking and being friends for a bit then reconnected for the same thing to happen a second time were we don’t talk anymore.
it sucks bc we are amazing together and blend amazingly but the fear outweighed everything and ended up being what happened……not saying to scare you but if you go that way don’t let the fear hold you back and let what happens happen bc if you hold back worrying someone will get hurt no matter what but if it honestly doesn’t work out what prevents you both from being friends after if it didn’t and you put the effort in and didn’t hold back?
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Just be open and casually ask him if you think this friendship could ever be something more. Whatever you do, don't show your love towards him until you know for a fact that he shares the same feelings for you. You need him to fall in love with you... HIM... not you making him fall for you, HE has to fall for you by himself. If you try and force it, it'll only make you look needy and that'll most likely push him away.
Casually put the idea of being something more out there and move on like it meant absolutely nothing to you. Trust me, he'll start thinking about it and what you meant by it, and the more he thinks about it the more he'll start seeing you in a different light.
Are you sure you want him to become your man? Are you willing to risk your friendship? Ask yourself first these questions before you go further… you can’t make someone fall for you… you just can’t. We don’t choose who to love or like. If he is falling for you, he’ll show you. Then learn to catch on. If the feelings are mutual, then decide if the risks are worth taking.
Find out the type of relationship he fancies. If it matches with the type of relationship you want then just ask like the female half that would naturally be in that type of relationship. That's all you can really do. If he wants a different type of relationship than you do, you shouldn't want him anymore.
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Navigating the forest of love and friendship, I see! First off, breathe! The journey from friends to something more is like a delicate dance - not everyone gets the steps right on the first go. Your connection sounds special, and that's your superpower. 💖 Start with the basics: keep sharing those laughs, those inside jokes, and all the things that made you two click in the first place. Amp up your game by showing him the best version of yourself - be confident, kind, and genuinely interested in his life.
Now, don't sweat the 'S' girl mystery. Maybe it's a smokescreen, maybe not. Focus on your bond. Create new memories together, especially with college on the horizon. Try to subtly drop hints about how you see him in a different light now, maybe through flirty jokes or compliments that go beyond the friendly zone.
But here's the kicker: don't push for an overnight lovebomb. Love, especially the kind that evolves from friendship, needs its own time to bloom. And remember, even if he doesn't catch the love bug in the way you hope, you haven't lost him. You've gained an even deeper understanding of each other. Keep your heart open, have fun, and let the chips fall where they may. Love has a funny way of surprising us when we least expect it. 💑 Keep dancing, and who knows? He might just step in time with you.
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Tell him you like him. That's really the best thing you can possibly do. Don't expect him to be the one to ask you out, if he likes you that way he's probably just as scared as you are. Guys can't read minds, and the hints you're put out are likely either going over his head, or he's afraid that he's misinterpreting them. One of you has to make the first move, and if he's not doing it then it's up to you. Most guys in that situation are too terrified of ruining the friendship they have to confess, just like you are.
That's not how love works someone won't fall in love with you just because you love them. When you're young and hopeful and inexperienced you can read into things as signs that they like you that aren't really there. From your description of the situation I don't think he loves you.
Sounds like Voldemort’s backstory. His mother fell in love with a muggle but he didn’t feel the same so she used a love potion on him and had a child and that child was Tom Riddle, named after his muggle father Tom Riddle Sr, and we all know who Tom Riddle Jr became 🤣 moral of that story, you can’t force someone to love you or you’ll become an evil wizard/witch
He probably already is. Make a move on him and see what happens.
You can't make people fall in love. It's sad if you need to "make" someone want you.
It does not work like that. May e you ask him if he ever thinks that your friendship could maybe be something more. May e he feels the same way about you. If he doesn't it won't sound too weird.
Kiss him. It will fix your issues one way or another. You can't keep him as a friend and lover. You can only have one or the other. You want him as a lover, which means you need to risk the friendship.
... just kiss the dude. Many if not all of you questions will be answered.
You can't. You can't make someone fall in love with you.
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ig u need to move on n let go
keeping him as ur bff seems to be the right thing to do
Try experimenting with different hairstyles. That can work sometimes.
Tou can make him notice you but not fall in love with you. That either happens on its own or it doesn't
Ask him to have a movie night with you, cook him a nice dinner, and snuggle up next to him. If he doesn't get the message then just kiss him.
Travel back in time and alter the timeline. I would just be honest with him that you caught feelings
I think he likes you too and he also don't want to lose you as a bff so he also in the big question mark "what if" ? So you both in same street someone has to take a lead 😂
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Just tell him how you feel..
Why?
That would mean you risk losing a friendship
Normally it’s the guy best friend trying to get the girl to love him.😮
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