Why is it when a girl tries to distance herself and cut off the communication and contact they seem to crawl back. And if they do crawl back how do you get them to stay?
Most Helpful Girls
Oh sweet Jesus. I do not get game playing.
I don't know. I mean if you expect a guy to miss you then you probably have a bit more time than a week or two in and at that point if someone pulled that shit on me id be moving on. I don't really think ignoring him for a month is really going to help your cause. I have seen a few replies that have said it worked and maybe it does for some people but I don't think it's a majority.
Turn the tables, if a guy went dark on you for a month would you still be interested?
I sure as hell wouldn't be.
Some guys like to chase but that makes you uncatchable. Not many guys are going to sit around and wait on you for four weeks.
The guy that MIGHT Is the one you've had a long term relationship with and then at that point, to me, it makes you unreliable. And if it were a long term relationship that went south his friends will know and if they're good friends they might drag him out to cheer him up, four weeks means four Friday nights and four Saturday nights. That's eight possible "guys nights" when he could pick up some chick to "fill the void" you've left, so how do you handle that when/if he comes crawling back?
Someone mentioned something like "sometimes you need off time" true, sometimes I do, but if you need a month off from someone then you probably don't belong with them.
I think the only possible way this works is if you give them time to miss you but not so much time they feel you've lost interest and they move on. A month is definitely lost interest territory to me. Depends on how often you were talking or seeing each other too, at least to me, if it was every day and suddenly nothing and no explanation for the disappearing act then a week goes by and I'm done, but that's me. Personally, I don't play games and I don't really care to be with someone that does. Depending on the age of the guy, he's probably not going to want to play those sort of games either.
To be honest, this worked for me. But again, I didn't speak to him because I just didn't feel like he was interested enough in me NOT because I wanted something out of it. In the end- he kept in touch and asked why was it that I disappeared.
Sometimes, being too available for the man you like is not a good thing. Give him time to miss you and figure out if he wants you in his life.
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Most Helpful Guys
One word. NOPE. You know what works like a charm tho? Getting with a douchebag that yoo knoooooow doesn't treat her as good as you did lol. THAT sh*t will get you trying to call her up real quick.
I know what you mean tho, and yeah a girl tried playing this game with me once. We were doing well for a while, then she started not wanting to hang around my friends I guess (Im ALWAYS chilling with my friends lol) so we stopped chilling as much, but still had fun. Then she started acting real weird, not answering my calls, not wanting to hang out, not even talking to me on Facebook. Pretty much cutting me off. After like 3-4 weeks of absolutely nothing, I decided to call onnne mooore tiiime just to test my theory. And lo and behold, she gave me some bullsh*t excuse again about not being able to come chill or do anything that week. So I literally wrote down her number on a piece of paper, deleted it from my phone, went to the restroom, ripped up the paper, flushed it down the toilet, and actually said "Sayonara bitch!" And that was it. Don't push guys, there's only so much bullsh*t we can take (unless we're I love of course).
But when a girl is still single and just doesn't want to talk to you, well, for me I just figured she was an ungrateful a**hole. Real talk haha. But in all seriousness, then you realize eventually that you were just never meant to be and that when it REALLLY ends, because youve now cut them off emotionally. You literally feel nothing for them anymore.
It's a very complicated issue that applies differently to every situation. I had this kind of situation with my ex where I looked for her and she was mute, I couldn't expect anything with her. Now we are working the situation up and she told me "I didn't answer because I didn't want to know anything about you at the time." We had a very difficult period at the time that makes that acceptable. I don't think all women apply the "no contact" thing for the same reason and expect a similar result. It's difficult to tell if it's because there's something "hidden" in the situation that needs time to become acceptable (in different depths and time frames) or it's just a "I don't care about you anymore" kind of silence. Either way, the healthy thing to do is moving on. There's no point to be there and if things can be worked out, they certainly can.