Girls, do you actually want men to approach you or connect?

[Anonymous]

[SueShe]

Speaking for myself here only.

No, I do not wish men to approach me or connect. I am very well aware what their final goal, their ultimate aim is when they approach a girl.

It is obviously ultimately to get into their pants. There is no denying it that in my age group, that is the primary aim for men to hit on girls and to want to flirt.

The definition of the word "flirting" is:

"a sexual behavior involving spoken or written communication, as well as body language, by one person to another, to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person".

Now, we obviously all know what is meant with a "deeper relationship", right? That simply means getting into the pants of a woman.

[DonaldDarko]

This makes it hard to ask women for directions or anything really. Lots of times I needed information but the person I had to ask was som young girl who was pretty. I hated approaching them.

[SueShe]

@DonaldDarko In today's world where everyone has at least 1 smartphone, there is no need to approach anyone to ask for direction. You could also have asked a man instead.

[DonaldDarko]

Not in the 90s you couldn't. And there isn't always a man around with specific knowledge. Women are security guards, janitors, medical professionals and many other walks of life. You have to deal with them.

[Summeroflove]

I understand everything is sexual. Get your head out of the gutter. Yeah obviously some men are after that but if you make everything sexual. That’s on you

Flirting can be romantic as well.

[Summeroflove]

I will say though….. most people approaching randos are either fuckboys or desperate. But unless something sexual is said or done…..

[SueShe]

@Summeroflove OK, let's dig a little deeper into your thoughts of romanticism. The definition of romance is:

"feelings, expressions, or settings related to love and affectionate relationships"

What do you think will happen if you allow those "feelings" go too far? Will they remain platonic? Of course not! They will end the with getting into the pants of that victim.

[Summeroflove]

Well everything you said isn’t sexual….. alone

[Summeroflove]

But if relationships are all about sex to you. That’s just sad madam.

[Summeroflove]

You can bond with someone emotionally without having sexual relations. You can have sex with someone and never bond to them at all.

[Summeroflove]

And if someone’s wanting affection and a deeper bond. That’s not just being a pervert. Being a pervert means perverting sex….. and only wanting sex without any intentions to bond emotionally.

So I think your heads way too far in the gutter and I feel bad for you.

[Cyfris]

No they don't. They want men that have the potential to be life partners to approach them whom they are attracted to. A woman will let you know if she wants to be approached with her body language usually. When you glance at her, she glances at you, you both smile, it isn't awkward, you can approach and say hi usually without to much trouble if your approach isn't shit. If she looks away quickly and doesn't look back, there is no smile, or the smile seems awkward, then likely she doesn't want to be approached by you. If she is in a sash that reads birthday girl or bridesmaid or is clearly involved in an intimate personal group experience already she prolly doesn't want to be approached. She slips from her barstool and slams into you at the bar and says hey your kinda cute she prolly wants you to approach.

[Anonymous]

Usually they don't ❌
And to my mind, I don't play such risk games 🎮
Hell, I don't want a cop at my door or a cop saying some woman's said I asked them out 🥲

[Opinion Owner]

In life even women can become creepy and weird into a hot hunk of a man when he's not into her - shrug 😔

[Ms_Facesitter]

Is it strange that I don't know how to answer this and give you a straight answer?

I'm an introvert. I usually have trouble giving out my contact info to a person I barely know, and they usually expect that so it bothers me a bit. It's too early for me so that inevitable "No, sorry" is on its way. It sucks to turn someone down.

But my boyfriend approached me and we hit it off and are now still together, so... Yes? When single I want it, but I am scared of it when it does happen.

[Summeroflove]

Well women that are loyal and in relationships don’t but if they’re mature as long as the man is respectful he didn’t know.

Generally, the women who get angry are the ones who never initiate anything and don’t really know many dudes. They tend to get approached by the wrong men…. Creeps, weirdos, desperate men on one extreme and fuck boys on the other. Because that’s most of who approaches random women.

[jennifer_bloom]

If I was single, I would only want attention from people I am interested in.

[CherryLove007]

The non creepers and gentlemen only thanks very much.

[NicholasofAustralia]

This @queenofcardio as a disclaimer right,? 📜

[Cleatchaser1]

If I was single I would want them to come up and talk to me if they were interested. Since I'm not, I don't.

[Dnice1]

Yeah I've never been approached in person just online

[queenofcardio]

Yes, I want them to.

[Nikki1989]

They can and often do.