Girls, do you want guys to approach you more or less often?

[Christian65]

explain your answer😃

[OpenClose]

Oh I'm interested to check out responses.

Should have tacked on a poll as well.

What I would imagine is that women want more attention, but less of the bad attention.

I mean, duh. But I mean this moreso than prior decades.

People seem to interact less these days. Maybe it's just because I moved to the city. But when people don't interact much on a day-to-day basis, the good interactions usually drop, but the bad interactions are a little more stubborn.

For instance, women in the 60's probably had all manner of flirts and attention, with the occasional asshole who was too aggressive. But when people are more distant with each other, they talk less but the aggressive asshole continues his game.

I mean I can certainly say it has wreaked absolute havok on men. We're in a very weird bind of not getting out as much, being especially aware of not wanting to make unwanted advances, but still being expected to MAKE advances. I freaking hate it because I'd imagine I'd be a pretty decent flirt if I didn't feel like flirting at all was inappropriate.

[Blackcosmo]

I don't get approached very much but thats probably because I try my best to avoid them lol. I wish I could get over this problem by being less insecure and more outgoing but currently i'd rather not get approached at all.

[OpenClose]

Yeah, I know several girls who are put off by social interaction in general, so flirtatious social interaction is especially awkward.

It's definitely the same for guys, but since we get basically zero attention, the only attention we get is the attention we go out and seek. The idea of "just live your life and relationships come" is a radically foreign concept for men.

Oh, I just saw your age, too. Don't be too hard on yourself during these years. It's confusing AF and doesn't actually reflect much on how things will be later. Different aspects develop differently on a person-by-person basis. You're likely developing aspects of yourself that the more outgoing girls are not.

I didn't even start socially coming out of my shell until High School. My sister was worse. My parents had to send videos to teachers to prove she wasn't mute. Now, she's probably the most social one in the family.

[Blackcosmo]

@OpenClose Thank you so much for the advice. You've given me hope.

[Blackcosmo]

Thanks for the MHO!

[TacosRAwesome]

More often. I want to know that I got it. Although in all honesty, even during what should have been my peak, I didn't get approached much.

[KrakenAttackin]

No, they like the power of rejecting guys. What they really want is Chad Thundercock approaching them more.

[dolemite89]

girls only dislike when guys they find unattractive or creepy talk to them. no complaints when attractive guys chat them up 😅

[howdidireachhere]

less often. preferably not at all. i like women.

[Agagagagaga]

But you’re not even an adult...

[howdidireachhere]

@Agagagagaga and?

[Agagagagaga]

It means you like girls. Not women.

[howdidireachhere]

@Agagagagaga but i like women 😩😩

[ErikaBeexd]

m-more 🧡💫