Guys, does the "no contact" rule work on men, making you want us more? (Page 2)

Question

I have been told that if things are uncertain in a relationship (however you define it) It's best for the girl to avoid communication and definitely not see the guy for at least a month in order for them to realize that they miss you. When a guy can get the girl with no voiced commitment (ie. "in a relationship", "dating", "exclusive") does he really not take it seriously because it's open?  Does the no contact rule work on men? Why is it when a girl tries to distance herself and cut off the communication and contact they seem to crawl back. And if they do crawl back how do you get them to stay?

abc3643 · Answer

NO!

Hannah591 · Answer

I do try, but it often fails. As time goes by, I can go longer and longer with no contact. No contact does work and does make them wonder what you're doing and if you care about them still. They're then more likely to contact you first.

Speeder132 · Answer

True story, all of it.  It details everything you would ever want to know.

CarpetDenim · Answer

I think it just shows them you’re not worth the time and effort because you play mind games with them and won’t just tell them what you want.

devilman666 · Answer

If a girl does that to me, she'll find herself single. I hate feeling like I'm being avoided, after a week and a half of no replies I'd probably assume we were done, I move on quickly.

FinalVow · Answer

me? absolutely not When I like a woman romantically my ultimate goal is to marry her so for me I am certain going in. though I am the kind of guy who wants a serious authentic genuine relationship.

shyguy89 · Answer

if he's an honest guy he won't mind the nc..thats what I'm on rite now its good and bad cause you hate to be in the dark..just whatever he gives to you make sure you give back so he knows..good luck

lexythelou22 · Answer

Really wouldn't suggest this unless you're in high school. This will usually backfire unless you find a guy who's really desperate.

sakalator · Answer

Not at all, it's a very big turn off.. there are even podcasts about this. A woman rejecting physical contact with us.. that is just annoying, nothing else 🙄

Luis-158 · Answer

umm this is a difficult question because what if he is fed up with the relationship and takes the month of silent has a implicit "we are over" message?

hindril · Answer

Odd question. Has this actually worked? I have never seen it work. If a girl pulls back and cuts contact, I just think she is not interested. Why would I try to contact someone who doesn't want to contact me?

MajorEasy · Answer

If the guy has no game... Then sure, he'll sit in his room and miss you... If the guy is not totally unpopular... He'll likely find other women to go out with and totally forget you...

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Game playing never impresses me. If a girl avoids me for a week, I assume that she has lost interest and I start looking for someone else. "No contact" is the proper way to end a relationship.

JohnnyDaStrange · Answer

I've 6ot a girl who's freezing me out currently, with no good/real

Or apparent reason.

Believe it or not, there are some guys who value female friends.

I can't tell you why a guy "crawls" back, I'm not really that type.

Personally, I think a month is a little extreame, a week or two, yea

If I got taken outta the loop for a month, friend/girlfriend.

I'd drop her so fast her head would spin like a top.

Thats just me

GingerGuy · Answer

No, this is a game and I don't play games. I'll take that as you're not interested and like you or not, goodbye.

unicorn1978 · Answer

I don't get the whole stupid game stuff if someone doesn't seem bothered I'd move on and same if I acted not bothered you can't blame him for not wanting to waste his time

PondyPand · Answer

I think most people just appreciate honesty. Not replying or taking longer seems you aren't interested and is for high schoolers with crushes.

ZFGiven · Answer

No, If a guy is obsessed maybe, But most guys will see it as a sign you aren't interested anymore and start looking for something new

aceexp · Answer

A month? No, if I'm not invested then I move on. Even then, I'll still move on because I don't like to be stuck on one thing for too long. But that's just me

bolverk · Answer

If you've already shown you like the guy, and then you start playing games like this?

It would be very likely that you cause the guy to just ignore you if you're lucky, If you're unlucky, well I won't go there.

blkgold33 · Answer

Heck no if a girl doesn’t contact me just make me think she doesn’t want to talk or have anything to do with me

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

if you're counting the days you're not speaking then there's less and less of a relationship worth saving.

msg812 · Answer

It can work but its duration shouldn't be too long. I am Turkish and there is a Turkish saying "Fazla naz aşık usandırır" its English translation is like that " Too much coyness makes a lover weary"

fuzzyllama · Answer

Not really, if anything if she can't be bothered to contact, why would I want to waste my time on her? So many mind games, it's unreal.

TheFunkyThumb · Answer

The only guys that do that are guys that dont feel like they have any other options. And even if i dont have any other females im interested, ill choose to be alone than go through that

MrMilti · Answer

When I am not sure, if a woman is the right one for a committed relationship and she suddenly goes silent, it just enforces that feeling that I should look elsewhere.

MLGbreezy · Answer

This sounds like the stupidest thing I've ever heard if that was the case and a girl I like did that to me I'd figure you lost ibtrest and move on with the rest of my life

Argus14 · Answer

That strategy would only work if the plan was to get me to forget about you completely and start boning other women.

Steven71 · Answer

If you issued a no contact I am not staying for the fact that you don't respect me and if I did something wrong and own up to it then I deserve it but if only lasts for a day or two no more than that

code56 · Answer

what if the chick dumped the dude...is it the same way for girls..if the guy does the NC?

TheRealAttila · Answer

Worked back in high school...these days if it's with a girl I like I'll give her a week and if I don't hear anything I move on. no point wasting time.

Brando · Answer

Not for me personally. If you aren't close to me and are a new friend, the no-contact would make her "out of sight, out of mind".

TinaSP · Answer

Nope. Its not playing hard to get that makes a guy like you just want to fudge u more

Hurlyburly · Answer

No, but its the best way to make sure that you grow apart.

Welshman2 · Answer

If a woman doesn't communicate with me, I assume she's not interested. I can't be doing with people that piss about and play those sorts of games

RichiezLion · Answer

These days, there are so many ideas to create pain for men in relationships, and this is just another one of those.

RedThread · Answer

If someone stopped contacting me then I would stop contacting them in return. I don't got time for that shit.

Landshrk0068 · Answer

Why would I want to go back to someone playing silly mind games? If a girl did this to me, the "no contact" would be forever.

Konnour · Answer

If you don't to deal with that person anymore - there's no reason why you SHOULD keep contact with them

Anonymous · Answer

I think it works well if you want to move on & forget but using it as a tool to get someone back will only backfire. But for moving on it has always worked for me...as long as you stick with it & totally block the other person out, permanently.

KatO7 · Answer

I think it depends on the reason why you broke up. Remember that by going NC you're also doing  yourself a favour to move on.

KERMlT · Answer

Depends on how he feels about her. Sometimes it is out of sight, out of mind.

domo0906 · Answer

I don’t like playing games and it’s such a turn off. If I’m into you, you’ll know. If a guy is into me I rather him just tell me instead of playing mind games.

worldscolide · Answer

No it's simply does not all it does is show that you're a manipulative person willing to play games. Playing games like that makes you a disgusting person

torwulf · Answer

No. Ghost me for a month and I'll probably have a new partner. If you have to resort to ghosting the relationship is doomed to fail anyway. Best to just break up

HamAndCheese · Answer

Nope. Sorry. You're just never gonna hear from me again. I might like you but I'm not gonna do backflips while tightrope walking just to get your attention.

Mexicoman101 · Answer

No not really. Not if there’s another woman who will talk to us.

realrishabh · Answer

Well I would just like to say that if it's real, doesn't matter how long you both don't talk or see each other you'll be still into each other but if it's weak or fake "no contact" thing will most probably end up your relationship.

Desconhecida · Answer

Do what you feel like. Dont listen to rules and dont play games.

Billlewis · Answer

This is a fantastic, tried and true method that's guaranteed to drive any guy crazy;)

Canadaman99 · Answer

No, I take the hint and move on with my life, usually feeling like shit for not being able to do anything or for being a bother lol

SketchForger · Answer

Imagine being so self important and desperate that you feel the need to distance yourself in a relationship instead of saying NO to a relationship.

Factshurt90 · Answer

Rarely... usually when you come back they know it's a game and they don't care tho

Balcazaurus · Answer

I don't know.  I just assume they're not into me.  All these little tests are like intentionally made pot holes instead of speed bomps.

Duke_Raul · Answer

For me personally it has the opposite effect If I had feelings for that person they seem to fade away as they did in real life

damoM · Answer

What part of "don't fucking play mind games" are you retarded control freaks too stupid to understand? Just be honest! TALK TO your partner!

Fredde199 · Answer

Women need to learn to communicate.. if you want something just ask.. and when we have "done something wrong" use your words.. i know we're awesome but mind reading is not one of our skills👍

lorawhite14 · Answer

It can also alienate the guy and create more insecurity.

RoeyD · Answer

It's dangerous, and in extreme cases it can make someone suicide.

roseypopxox · Answer

I don't think it will, they'll get bored and move on to someone else 😂

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