It works only towards desperate and feeble-minded people!
Anybody who even a bit is a real personality won't play such stupid games and won't fall for them!
It's your choice!
I personally wouldn't do that!
...by doing so you not only attract desperate people and push away good relationship materials, you also show complete disregard of the feelings of any other people, including your potential mate and display enormous selfishness - that also makes you a bad relationship material!
In a month I'd have moved on felt abandoned and resolved the issue by it being over in my mind and in my heart. I wouldn't want a woman that could stay away for a month at a time and frankly of every fight took a month to get over I'd never see her. We've been fighting less and less and getting over them faster the longer we been with each other..
Habits work like this: cue-routine-reward. If you want to change a habit, keep cue and reward, but change the routine.
If you feel like a guy is taking you for granted, stop rewarding him with sex for doing nothing. Next time he feels horny or misses you or whatever (cue), make him treat you to a date or whatever (routine), then reward him with sex afterwards.
Keep doing this frequently enough, and sooner or later it may become a habit for him.
Honestly who even has time for games, I dont really believe in the no-contact rule, if you want to contact someone then you should. If you don't in hopes of them missing you more they may just move on without you.
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I did the no contact rule for 3 months cos it was the only way to heal myself. It was very tough as I thought of my ex all the time but when time went back I've got used to it and be able to focus on my life.
I did break the rule after that and I've regretted it as I thought I could befriends with him but after I found out that he's been getting back with his ex. It hurts me even deeper so I decided to cut off all the contact with him completely for good this time.
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You slept with his friend. Bad move. Personally id neve speak to you again if you did that to me. That's also what makes it so easy for him to ignore and be a d*** to u. Sure he likes and loves you but his thoughts will always come back to you sleeping with his friend. That will make the relationship never work so don't even bother.
It will work on some guys others it won't There is no one way in things like this Some guys still have that attitude from childhood where they get bored with and ignores a toy until it gets taken away and throws a fit about their it being their favorite Other guys have let go of that attitude and they will be offended by this treatment
This is so stupid. Be straight up and respond. Stop playing games. Stop listening to websites saying TRY THESE METHODS TO MAKE A GUY WANT YOU MORE. If you are playing games like this I’m going to guess you’re in your early to late teens. That’s the age group where people are mainly idiots when it comes to this type of stuff. And if you are playing these games in your adulthood, then you’re plain immature and retarded.
Somewhere in between being available too much and not avaiable at all is best. Being avaiable too much could come across as not having much as going on in your life if at all. Not being available at all could come across as having too much going on and not enough time for someone else.
That game works on everyone, gender makes no difference. I don't really know all the psychology there, but people hate being ignored and rather than driving them away, it makes them want to get closer. Either way, it's emotional manipulation and you should avoid it.
The no contact thing does work on some guys, usually the bad boys that date numerous girls until they find the one they can't live without, but not for a lot of males. Most males like myself give up on getting to know the female that stops communication and moves on. It still hurts, but they know there is no point being in a relationship where you don't talk or see each other
That makes me think it's a dead on arrival relationship and I keep sailing on there's nothing more frustrating than a woman who doesn't know (or at least doesn't show) what she wants and I'll wait maybe like 2 weeks at most before I'm like well this was a waste of time then you'll never hear from me again
Well, I've been told no many times (not sexual) I asked and get told no that I can't date her and I continue to pursue and show that she needs and deserves me. Until she finally says get the f*** away from me. So I back off and just be friends but support her and care for her like a boyfriend would. But on a much smaller scale.
How do you lose someone in 30days, ? That would more than do it seems bad all around cause if there was interest before that for me it would be gone in less then 5 days pending how well knew them or not
Yes for a short period and you can't do it too ofter or it will loose meaning, I discussed this with a teacher back and college and he says there are good evidences of this effect really happening (spoiler: some people can be immune to it, we talk in a general sense)
I think the only reason my girlfriend and I work out so well is cause we both contacted each other constantly.
I say we throw all this bullshit dating "rules" to the side and go back to our grandparents time. It was okay to show interest and not seen as a bad thing like now.
Okay, this is not about hard to get. I have been seing the same guy for 8 months with no commitment and he knows I want a commitment. So I try to back off and then he keeps callng and texting me like he wants me so bad then why can't he bend a little. I just wanted to give him space so he can pull his head out of his ass. He shouln't be able to have me, but be single at the same time. And yeah it's my fault I let it go on this long so now I'm stuck.
Hmm yea, that's a totally different situation. But that doesn't make it right.
Im pretty sure the guy can't read minds, and you're acting as if he can. He doesn't know what you want, so you need to communicate that to him in a more effective way. Avoiding him is never an answer to anything. It just makes him think you don't care all that much, which is why he probably hasn't displayed any commitment toward you. Seriously, who would commit to someone who avoids them out of nowhere?
I have voiced what I want and that's why I said that if he can't be with me and only me than we should stop seeing each other...but then he keeps reaching out. I'm not going to just be there only when he wants it and on his terms or he'll never take what I want seriously. Does they make more sense?
I have the same situation happening now and about to use no contact for 30 days bc a couple of weeks didn't work. I mean he made first contact but it wasn't affective. So maybe 30 days will work. His family likes me so I kind of have leverage. Did it work for you?
I don’t know if they know It works.. but I know it works I make my friends do it and I’m always right :) sooner or later they’ll be like wtf why hasn’t this clingy girl messaged me and they’ll message you to find out what’s up lol
If a clingy girl I'm dating isn't messaging me when I know she's free and bored, I pretty much assume she's either cheating or doesn't feel the same anymore, and I leave. Not wasting effort on someone who doesn't want to be with me, besides, I need to feel desired too.
It's tough. I can't deny that we don't like the chase but at the same time, we also need to know there is a future for more. It for sure is a powerful tatic but I feel it needs to be supported by future promise
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It works only towards desperate and feeble-minded people!
Anybody who even a bit is a real personality won't play such stupid games and won't fall for them!
It's your choice!
I personally wouldn't do that!
...by doing so you not only attract desperate people and push away good relationship materials, you also show complete disregard of the feelings of any other people, including your potential mate and display enormous selfishness - that also makes you a bad relationship material!
In a month I'd have moved on felt abandoned and resolved the issue by it being over in my mind and in my heart. I wouldn't want a woman that could stay away for a month at a time and frankly of every fight took a month to get over I'd never see her. We've been fighting less and less and getting over them faster the longer we been with each other..
Habits work like this: cue-routine-reward. If you want to change a habit, keep cue and reward, but change the routine.
If you feel like a guy is taking you for granted, stop rewarding him with sex for doing nothing. Next time he feels horny or misses you or whatever (cue), make him treat you to a date or whatever (routine), then reward him with sex afterwards.
Keep doing this frequently enough, and sooner or later it may become a habit for him.
You may want to build up gradually, from him doing smaller things for you, to gradually bigger things.
Honestly who even has time for games, I dont really believe in the no-contact rule, if you want to contact someone then you should. If you don't in hopes of them missing you more they may just move on without you.
I did the no contact rule for 3 months cos it was the only way to heal myself. It was very tough as I thought of my ex all the time but when time went back I've got used to it and be able to focus on my life.
I did break the rule after that and I've regretted it as I thought I could befriends with him but after I found out that he's been getting back with his ex. It hurts me even deeper so I decided to cut off all the contact with him completely for good this time.
You slept with his friend. Bad move. Personally id neve speak to you again if you did that to me. That's also what makes it so easy for him to ignore and be a d*** to u. Sure he likes and loves you but his thoughts will always come back to you sleeping with his friend. That will make the relationship never work so don't even bother.
It will work on some guys others it won't
There is no one way in things like this
Some guys still have that attitude from childhood where they get bored with and ignores a toy until it gets taken away and throws a fit about their it being their favorite
Other guys have let go of that attitude and they will be offended by this treatment
This is so stupid. Be straight up and respond. Stop playing games. Stop listening to websites saying TRY THESE METHODS TO MAKE A GUY WANT YOU MORE. If you are playing games like this I’m going to guess you’re in your early to late teens. That’s the age group where people are mainly idiots when it comes to this type of stuff. And if you are playing these games in your adulthood, then you’re plain immature and retarded.
Somewhere in between being available too much and not avaiable at all is best. Being avaiable too much could come across as not having much as going on in your life if at all. Not being available at all could come across as having too much going on and not enough time for someone else.
That game works on everyone, gender makes no difference. I don't really know all the psychology there, but people hate being ignored and rather than driving them away, it makes them want to get closer. Either way, it's emotional manipulation and you should avoid it.
The no contact thing does work on some guys, usually the bad boys that date numerous girls until they find the one they can't live without, but not for a lot of males. Most males like myself give up on getting to know the female that stops communication and moves on. It still hurts, but they know there is no point being in a relationship where you don't talk or see each other
That makes me think it's a dead on arrival relationship and I keep sailing on there's nothing more frustrating than a woman who doesn't know (or at least doesn't show) what she wants and I'll wait maybe like 2 weeks at most before I'm like well this was a waste of time then you'll never hear from me again
Well, I've been told no many times (not sexual)
I asked and get told no that I can't date her and I continue to pursue and show that she needs and deserves me. Until she finally says get the f*** away from me. So I back off and just be friends but support her and care for her like a boyfriend would. But on a much smaller scale.
How do you lose someone in 30days, ? That would more than do it seems bad all around cause if there was interest before that for me it would be gone in less then 5 days pending how well knew them or not
It works in some cases, read this for more info: link
Yes for a short period and you can't do it too ofter or it will loose meaning, I discussed this with a teacher back and college and he says there are good evidences of this effect really happening (spoiler: some people can be immune to it, we talk in a general sense)
I think the only reason my girlfriend and I work out so well is cause we both contacted each other constantly.
I say we throw all this bullshit dating "rules" to the side and go back to our grandparents time. It was okay to show interest and not seen as a bad thing like now.
No. Never. Nada. Don't even think about it.
Most guys will just say "f*** it" and move along. nobody has time for a child that's trying to play hard to get.
Okay, this is not about hard to get. I have been seing the same guy for 8 months with no commitment and he knows I want a commitment. So I try to back off and then he keeps callng and texting me like he wants me so bad then why can't he bend a little. I just wanted to give him space so he can pull his head out of his ass. He shouln't be able to have me, but be single at the same time. And yeah it's my fault I let it go on this long so now I'm stuck.
Hmm yea, that's a totally different situation. But that doesn't make it right.
Im pretty sure the guy can't read minds, and you're acting as if he can. He doesn't know what you want, so you need to communicate that to him in a more effective way. Avoiding him is never an answer to anything. It just makes him think you don't care all that much, which is why he probably hasn't displayed any commitment toward you. Seriously, who would commit to someone who avoids them out of nowhere?
I have voiced what I want and that's why I said that if he can't be with me and only me than we should stop seeing each other...but then he keeps reaching out. I'm not going to just be there only when he wants it and on his terms or he'll never take what I want seriously. Does they make more sense?
I have the same situation happening now and about to use no contact for 30 days bc a couple of weeks didn't work. I mean he made first contact but it wasn't affective. So maybe 30 days will work. His family likes me so I kind of have leverage. Did it work for you?
I don’t know if they know It works.. but I know it works I make my friends do it and I’m always right :) sooner or later they’ll be like wtf why hasn’t this clingy girl messaged me and they’ll message you to find out what’s up lol
If a clingy girl I'm dating isn't messaging me when I know she's free and bored, I pretty much assume she's either cheating or doesn't feel the same anymore, and I leave. Not wasting effort on someone who doesn't want to be with me, besides, I need to feel desired too.
It's tough. I can't deny that we don't like the chase but at the same time, we also need to know there is a future for more. It for sure is a powerful tatic but I feel it needs to be supported by future promise