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It is difficult to have an honest, open discussion with many white people about race without them becoming extremely sensitive, defensive, and angry as if their ancestors were the ones who were hunted, stolen, and terrorized for generations. I’m finding there are very few white people who I can actually keep it real and have an open, fruitful, productive dialogue about race with. I refuse to coddle a white person or make sure we address all of their hypersensitivity and make sure they feel totally comfortable before we can proceed with the core topic. I’m not going to waste my time and energy discussing race with a white person if everything they say is essentially self-absorbed, self-centered, and demanding that I focus on them and their feelings primarily too. It feels like a chore having to navigate through their sensitive anger for who knows how long and sometimes it honestly feels like I’m talking to an emotionally upset child who cannot logically find it in themselves mentally to calm down and focus on the real problem beyond their upset feelings. I’d rather just save my thoughts for a conversation that has better quality. Can other minorities relate? Minorities, what are your thoughts on this?

Hi, im in a really bad and hard situation right now..
I have 3 dogs and one of my dogs came from a bad place and has been abused by her old owner.
I've had her for 4 and a half years now, she has always been very special first thing she did when i got her was to bite me lol But she was just really scared cuz i got her old owner to drive her to me, they live 4 hours away from me so she was in a whole new place.

She has always had stress and panic problems she is really scared of almost everything all she wants to do is live in my house around 4 walls with everything how it is and doesn't like going out. If i for exampel move the sofa to the other side of the room, it makes her stressed she doesn't want any changes. She is pretty much only happy at home.
She doesn't like going out. she stresses and pulls on the leash and she wants to bite other people walking by, kids etc all kinds. She can't controll her anger so she needs to bite on her leash to get her frustrations out and if she doesn't get a hold of the leash she will bite the grass, my bag or if she doesn't get ahold of anything she would bite my leg or hand for exampel if she sees another dog.
She once bit one of my other dogs bad, and my other dog almost lost her eye (it popped out) but was able to be fixed.
Sometimes she is the most sweet dog ever but thats only at home.. I can't be out with friends with my dogs cuz she won't behave (my other dogs r perfecty fine and well behaved) and i can't leave her at home without needing to lock away my other dogs so she doesn't hurt them if for exampel if some1 rings on my door bell while im out. I always need to have full controll..
This is stressfull for both me and my other dogs. They go great together if everything is calm at home but when things happends it just doesn't work..