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I just came back from Barnes and Noble (its a book store with a Starbucks inside)

I was tutoring my friend and we took up two tables and we saw a couple needed a place to sit so I moved our stuff to one table so they were sitting less then feet away from us.

When I was trying to explain something to my friend.

The guy started to say things like Adriana Lima is so much hotter then you and Jessica Alba has a much nicer butt then you. And she said "well go find them (name)." They were talking about their futures and she wanted to get a nursing license while he wanted to get a new car. So he said "Nah, f**k your license I'm getting my car" And she took most of what he was saying. It seemed like they were going out but idk. Throughout our tutoring session he kept saying things like this and I got aggravated.

WTF! Who does this guy think he is?! Granted it is some of the girls fault for taking it and not sticking up for her self but he should be a better guy and respect her for who she is!

At one point I was about to speak up for her.

Do you think sticking up for her would have been a good thing?

I know I'm just a stranger and have no place in their conversation. I shouldn't have been eavesdropping even though they were sitting less then a foot away from me.

At the end of our tutoring session, I didn't say anything because I didn't want to cause any more drama.

She seemed like a real sweet girl but he seemed like he didn't care.

I didn't want to be the knight in shining armor or anything but just do the right thing.

Should I have spoken up for her?

Strange phenomenon with the female gender...

...a guy asks out this girl, and the girl simply isn't into him for some reason.

Why does the girl in ? find it so difficult to reject the guy w/o confusing the hell out of him with phony sh*t like:

*saying something bulsh*t like "i just want to be friends"

*giving out a fake phone #, thus confusing the dude, cauz he thinks she likes him, then gets emotionally crushed or psychotically angry (which I don't blame him for btw), when he finds out the # is fake

*saying compliments within the rejection (I call them "softening phrases") like, "you're a great guy, but...", thus confusing the guy, thinking he still has a chance with her.

*giving out her real phone # to him with the intent of "ignoring him, hoping he gets the hint" or some nonsense like that

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So...maybe you don't want to hurt his feelings or something like that. Doing the above does MORE damage than a direct rejection.

Why?

B/c he walks away thinking he has a chance with you. Then when he realizes he doesn't and was "led on", then he's doubly crushed AND BITTER.

Then an "a**hole" is created, thus you're poisoning your own dating pool. GREAT job, ladies. :-X

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So the ? is this:

Why is it so difficult to reject a guy, that is a stranger that you don't like, don't know and don't care about...

...without doing one of the 4 points aforementioned above?

Being on this site for awhile, I don't recall seeing a ? like this one before.

Anonym is allowed; take full advantage if you need to do so to answer fully and truthfully.

Thank you for the solving of the mystery, ladies. :)

P.S. This is the NUMBER ONE THING guys talk about when it comes to girls "playing games".