Search Results: being bi-sexual

So about me... I'm biologically male, but identify as agender, which basically means no gender. So my goal, is to look as androgynous or as gender-neutral as possible. If I were born a girl, I'd be masculine for a girl. But since I was born a guy, I'm feminine for a guy.

Physically... I shave off ALL of my body hair. Just all of it. It's not even that tedious to me, honestly. I just put on some music, and do it with patience, and takes me around 25-30 minutes a day.

I have a little bit of facial hair, but I shave it off too. My hair is very long for a guy. It goes to about the middle of my back. And I dye it platinum blonde, but my natural color is medium brown.

I like to keep my hands and skin in general super soft, and apply a lot of lotion and oil and massage daily.

I don't really wear makeup because I like my natural look, but I do use a little to hide blemishes or acne or whatever.

Emotionally... I talk about emotions with people, and I'm not afraid to say I cry at least once a week. I also love cute things, and emotional, sad, sappy movies and TV shows.

I'm pretty happy with who I am, and I have a girlfriend who loves me just as I am. She actually used to like pretty masculine guys, but she fell in love with me, and grew to love my physique.

Oh... and I'm bisexual too, if it's relevant at all. I like men and women exactly 50/50. But if I HAD to pick, I'd still choose women.

However... my dad is completely against me being so feminine, and so are a lot of my older family members.

Last time, I created a question poll about which gender group hurts women the most, with 72% of them saying that women hurt women the most over 28% of those who said it was men.

And, to be honest, I'm not surprised, because as much as modern society likes talks about how evil men are for oppressing women for over centuries, women are actually as responsible for women's oppression as men are since the Dawn of time, from Ancient Egypt to even the 21st century. And I'm not just talking about straight white women, I'm talking about women of all races and sexualities, including women who claim to be feminist and all about sisterhood, yet they criticised and shame women for harmless choices whether it's about their careers, looks, hobbies etc.
And there are a few examples I can say such as:

1) Men (of any sexual orientation) who are into comics, manga, anime and video games won't complain about fictional male characters being "too sexy, too muscular, too masculine etc." while women (especially SJW feminists) would complain about fictional female characters being "too sexy, too feminine, her boobs & butt being too big etc." because they think it's all about the "male gaze", even though lesbians and bisexual women can also be attracted to those types of women and not just men, plus there are plenty women who naturally look like this and aren't straight neither are trying to attract or impress men nor because society says that this is what women are supposed to "look like".

2) And it's not just women having a problem with fictional women who are physically attractive, in shape and very "feminine & girly" but also with women in real life who look, dress and act like that, more so than men do.

This why I believe women are as responsible for patriarchy existing as men are. Regardless, I would love for all of you to share your opinions whether or not you believe that women are their worst enemies, regardless of your gender and sexual orientation.

Recently, I've been thinking a lot of the many harmful stereotypes towards people of the LGBT spectrum, especially when it comes to women. Not only lesbians but also bisexuals, pansexuals, asexual etc. because of their physical appearance, fashion choices and gender identity. Firstly, many queer femme or "feminine-presenting" girls & women are always assumed as "straight, that they only look good to attract men or at least masculine-presenting people, even though femmes can be attracted to other femmes. Never the fact that they feel that they have to come out every day, and when they do, nobody takes them seriously, not by their family & friends, not by straight men who always try to hit on them, not even by other people of the LGBT spectrum.

This short comic is a perfect example of the importance of femme visibility femme invisibility:

On the other hand, Butch or "masculine-presenting" queer girls & women also have a problem but different, including the expectations both Lgbt and non-Lgbt people, have (being strong, no emotions, people threatened by them, accused as being either a "man" or "trans" and people telling that they're ugly because they don't fit the stereotypically feminine norm, despite the fact that there's more than one type of femininity and being butch doesn't always mean "masculine". Even women who aren't LGBT and aren't gender-conforming are always assumed, perceived or accused to be lesbians despite the evidence or proof that their not.

Not many image or comic examples but here is one:

To be honest, I'm sick and tired of humans judging certain groups or others by their looks just because of how the media, fiction, books and other forms stereotype them. Humans are supposed to be an "intelligent" species, so when will they learn?

Finally, I would love to see your answers whether or not femmes or butch have it harder.

Note: I might do one for men too.

I have been noticing that there appears to be a double standard for men and women who are bi. Apparently it is more accepted for women to be bi so women can be more open about being bi. But men have to be more discreet about it. Curious how most women would react if a guy you were dating told you he was bi.