Search Results: getting out of the friend zone

I can count the times on one hand I have “unannounced” friend zoned a girl. That is it was plain as day she wanted me but I didn’t feel the same way. But I was nice to her because I liked her and didn’t want to crush her feelings with outright rejecting her.

But in hindsight I know that not speaking up is the worse thing you can do to someone. In the last 10 years I have explicitly yet tactfully told a few women that I wasn’t interested but I respected them so I was being honest. I also make sure to say this early to avoid them getting their hopes up. I do this because this is how I WISH I was treated in my youth. Most women are horrible at how they friendzone guys.

But anyway there were a few girls in college I probably could of dated if I was so picky about things. I remember I liked a girl in my finance class and she definitely liked me. But she one day road to class with a long board. I got this stupid stereotype stuck in my head that she was a “skater chic” and after that I didn’t give her any more romantic attention. Just said a quick hi and even I turned down a opportunity when she asked me to hang out one time. I regret that. She might of been very awesome in other ways. She was cute.