Hey, guys. Sorry, I'm doing it again. Having to put another question into Take form. I know, I know, but these days I am sort of having some chick adventures...or...maybe dilemmas? Lol. As I said in my last Take, I do not normally post a lot about my personal life but right now I guess I am looking for some insight from peeps in the GaG community. And unfortunately the details in my latest situation are a little longer than I intended but...
Here it is...
Lately I've been spending more time with a co-worker of mine, and we text pretty regularly. Not like all day every day but we do text at least little bit each day. I'm not gonna outright say we have feelings for each other or that even I have feelings for her entirely. I have liked her for a long time, since late last year, but we never even really spoke until recent months, which was small talk in passing. We ran into each other at the store one day a while ago and she was really excited to see me and of course I was. I felt like we were both advertising our singleness really hard lol, and asking each other a lot of questions about what we like and what we do and stuff, and she was even outright suggesting we could do things together, hang out, and go places. Then I asked for her number and she was excited about it and said she was actually gonna ask me for mine.
Since then we've been texting and meeting out at places a few times, not anything special, just opportunities to hang out as best as we can with all the COVID-19 going on. We talk a long time lol, getting to know each other and all. However, I can foresee the future and know certain things about people sometimes, but I don't like to call it being psychic and I don't like to go into a lot of detail about it, but during the times when we weren't together I could sense a disturbance in the Force. I began to sense that this girl likes me as just a friend and that she also has a fuckbuddy, which I was already preparing myself to find out.
So one day last week we met up somewhere like I asked, just wanting to spend time with her and see if there was anything I could get for my house and she wanted to see if she could get something for her new place. We sat in my car and talked a long time. About her ex, my ex, guys who come after her, dot dot dot. This girl is very beautiful and exotic, of another ethnicity but born and raised here, so she gets a lot of attention from guys, especially because she's very friendly for a beautiful woman.
She claimed to me that she's not really interested in dating anybody right now and needs to focus on herself and getting her life together, and that she's still trying to get over her ex. I told her that was disappointing lol, but tried to be humorous about it. She laughed and said she was sorry to hurt me. She also gets really comfortable telling me certain personal things because of how I make her feel, and she finally came out and said she does have a fuckbuddy, which is one of the other guys at work, simply for her sexual needs while she's single lol. Everything I sensed had been confirmed. When I told her I knew she was fucking someone she was shocked and kept asking me how did I know that. I told her I could just tell, that I've had experience with women enough to know things they're doing, and also know lies they tell (but I didn't say that part). Later that evening I was feeling the pain of finding it out though. It always hurts when you know a girl you like is sleeping with someone else. In recent days though I've been healing.
The other day we hung out for a short bit while I was on break (she was off) cuz I asked her to drop by. This time we sat in her car and ate and talked more. She mentioned again how guys come after her but she's not interested in dating right now, and felt like mentioning that she hasn't even been to see her fuckbuddy lately either. I just giggled but didn't say anything, just listened to her.
What I'm wondering...
So, guys, basically what I'm wondering, or what I'm making of our whole interaction is one of two things:
1. Part of me thinks this girl really does only like me as a friend, which I'm okay with because we do click really well, and in my real life I could use another friend who's a lot like me to help me get out the house more and get out of my comfort zone more, and I do like hanging around her. But I also think she's bullshitting about not being interested in dating anybody as a cover for the real fact that there is someone she's interested in and just wants to throw me off the scent, which cannot work because as I said, I know when I'm being lied to. But the mystery is that I don't know if this other person she's really interested in is her fuckbuddy or someone else. She did say she sort of has feelings for him.
2. But then the other half of me thinks she's bullshitting about not being interested in anybody just to keep me from trying when she actually might like me but is keeping me at a certain distance because she doesn't want to move too fast since she's still trying to get over her breakup. And if this really is the case I think she's either telling the truth about not even seeing her fuckbuddy lately because she does like me, or she's still bullshitting about not seeing him because she likes me and doesn't want me to think of her as a ho.
Often times when a woman really likes a guy she will stop having sex with other guys, and like what Matthew Hussey was even saying in one of his old videos, women have sex quick with guys they don't really like but make guys they do like wait a while before they have it. And then I personally also know that when a woman really likes you, she'll start pretending to be wholesome with you or even lie to you about not having sex with anyone else or in a long time so you won't think she's a ho. This is what I have experienced more than once in my past relationships.
Either way, I know this girl is bullshitting. I just can't figure out in which form and if it's because she really does like me or not. She always answers my texts even if it's later in the day, and I'm assertive so when I ask her to come see me or hang out with me she definitely does it. But I can't figure out what's what. So help me out here, guys. This is an interesting situation I can't quite decode. Any ideas? And if she does only want me as a friend and is bullshitting about not being interested in dating anyone, should I just drop her and move on?