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- We became close friends - she always contacted me, especially if I didn’t contact her for any longer than a few days.
- She always wanted to hang out with me.
- one day she started making excuses. I thought she was just stressed about something. I asked her if she’s ok and she said she’s ok, just stressed about things and has a lot on.
- When I was seeing her less, I became a bit persistent seeing when she was free. I realised my error after a while and apologised.
- She was at the same time playing hot and cold with me (avoiding me 1 minute and all friendly the next).
- after weeks of excuses i came to the view that she no longer wanted to be friends. I also confessed my feelings for her. I asked her if she still wanted to go on a holiday we had already paid for and booked. She said yes.
- I left her alone for 2 months and out of the blue she sent me a message saying she can no longer go. Initially I said fine and asked if we can meet up for lunch. She ignored the message and I became frustrated and snapped about how she just cancels a holiday on me.
- She then snaps back and says she’s never done anything like this to a friend before but then accuses me saying I made her increasingly uncomfortable (I gave her many opportunities before to say so - I asked her if I was making her uncomfortable & she said no she’s just stressed & busy with her language classes). She then claimed I frighten her and that she was only giving me excuses before to spare my feelings.
- This made me so upset that i cut her off completely. And it’s made me question myself. I can understand it’s hard to say things directly but I’m upset that even when i asked she gave me believable excuses and gave me false hope. Then blames it all on me.

A girl who I’d got on really well started ghosting me. I tried to leave her alone a bit, apologised and kept asking if she wants to meet. I gave her plenty of opportunities to talk to me about it, and meet up but she kept giving me excuses. I snapped at this point because she also cancelled a holiday on me after I gave her chances to drop out. She accused me of being demanding, aggressive and so I blocked her.