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MY mother, aunt, several female friends and my 1st year of college (worthless women's studies classes) influenced my upbringing. That's all I ever knew.

The very first thing my mother ever told me about guys (I was 4 at the time) was that I could tame him. She used to make me repeat the phrases ''I got the power to tame a boy''. Then immigrants (esp the native Spanish speakers that knew little or no English after 10+ years) were hated in the household.

So what changed me? Not going into details but I had an accident 3 years ago and if it wasn't for a Mexican guy, I'm not sure if I would be here typing today. He had a strong accent (spoke in broken English with some Spanish) but I did managed to understand a couple Spanish words too. I have him as a friend on fb till this day.

So let's say we're dating and you knew I was like that in the past (not anymore though), would you date me?

I just witnessed this:

Two guys are friends. They're in the same circles. Not best friends, but close. New girl enters.

All three people are above average in looks though their morality and sexually-driven motivations are pretty suspect. They're all sleeping around a lot.

Anyway, Guy #1, the bartender manager goes out with girl first. It doesn't last long. But they're really into each other. Coworkers talk. He's been sleeping with the staff. He's evasive and non-commital. He's ghosted, jumped around. Some girls warn the girl about him (although some of their motivation is jealousy, as well.) But she's an independent girl, and she doesn't like being told what to do. And, she thinks she is/wants to be special. She goes out with him anyway. They hit it off. Apparently more than with the others. After a short time he asks her, "You wanna be exclusive?" much to her surprise. She is happy. "Yes."

But before things really get going, another third party [helps her out?] by showing her a pic of him with another girl. On a date in a lunch place. She gets pissed. "I thought we were exclusive. You're already sneaking around on me?" "No, that was before. Before we decided. It's over now." But she doesn't believe him, breaks up. Then quickly changes her mind, asks to get back together. He: "No, I don't like the drama." He's also apparently upset about her not trusting him, and listening to outside influences.

Shortly after, she gets asked out by Guy #2, personal trainer. They also hit it off. She likes him "Even more. He's a man, not a boy." Trainer asks bartender friend, "Hey man, you ok with this... if I date her now?" He doesn't say much. He doesn't want it to happen but feels he can't intervene. Time goes by, and now and now guess who comes back? Bartender: "I just want to let you know that I care about you. I want you back." Huh? "I was scared." Of what? "Of falling in love, getting hurt."