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im really bad at showing my feelings or talking about them, and maybe my intentions with him aren't clear.. I don't know. But we get along well, and I really like him. I always fear of appearing too clingy or invested too much too soon.. so I end up keeping it all to myself. I really like this guy.. and we haven't been communicating the best online and I just want to send him a message to clear the air, but I'm afraid I'll appear creepy, too invested, clingy, loose with my emotions, etc. I'd send something telling him that I enjoy his company and that I don't really like people or talk to others and I enjoy talking to him and I like his brain, or personality, and that I just felt good when I was around him or something. and that I'd like to get to know him more.
We both don't talk to people really so what I said above about people is okay.

would this be weird?

Say you've been this person's spouse for 15 years, suddenly you get a message with proof showing you that your spouse is cheating/has previously cheated on you. You guys also have a kid that is just about in high school. The person who messages you is the person your spouse is currently "cheating" on you with, but claims they never had the intention and only wanted to expose them, despite you not know them. The relationship you have with your partner is also described by them as "having lost that spark."

So, honestly, would you want to find out? Why, or why not? Would you prefer to find out from someone else even if it means never finding out - just so you won't hear it from a stranger?

If you were put in the position of finding the cheater, and do not know their family, you've started to play along, would you try to find and contact their family? Why, or why not?