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One of my best friends and I had a nasty blow up back in July over something that seemed stupid to me, but it seemed monumental to him. I attempted to be compromising and diplomatic about his concerns. He was very upset and did not handle it well. He said a lot of very hurtful things, and he told me to cancel my trip to see him that we'd planned a month earlier. This was only 3 days before I was set to board the plane. It was our only fight in over 3 years of being good friends. He was so emotional and unreasonable that I ended up telling him that I'm done, and I stopped talking.

I finally decided to message him yesterday to see if he'd cooled off. He wrote back right away and immediately began to apologize profusely for how he handled his anger and how he behaved towards me. He offered to fly me out to see him at his own expense. He kept telling me how much he'd missed me.

I thought it was odd that he missed me so much and waited for me to reach out before he would apologize. So, I asked, "Why didn't you write?" He said, "Because, I'm stubborn."

I don't understand how he would miss me so much and be willing to sit there missing me and not write me. I have a few best friends who are like that. They will usually pop up months later apologizing, pretending nothing happened, and/or bribing.

Do they really care? What are they thinking? Are you this type of person? Please, give us your insight!

So I rounded up some friends to go on a trip. We each owed $40 each. So I messaged 3 days before to see if everyone was on board, they said yes.
There's friend a , friend b and friend c.
I text friend b when will we reserve the trip.
She stated she gets paid tomorrow and will venmo me. I told her ok me too, I'll wait until you message and then I'll book it. Keep in mind I'm on a tight budget and slim income.
FriendB messages me and says she gets got paid. Will I book it so she can venmo me.
I said okay yeah let me go ahead and book it now since we are ready. I booked it and paid for everyone and sent the confirmation to everyone.
Friend C texts saying she can't go all of a sudden even when I asked a few days before. :) I was annoyed but I said ok it's fine. Friend A sent her portion of the money.
Friend B states cool, I just got a new card so I have to put it on my venmo I'll pay you later. I was confused.. Then she states oh I can't pay you because I don't have my new card on my venmo yet. So I'm like ok? Well just pay me when you put it on~
So 2 days go by and I look at her social media... She is going out and going to restaurants. Granted I don't know what payment form she's using so I can't assume.
However it just doesn't sit right that she says she will pay me then but changes it to later. If I owe someone something, as soon as I get the money I give it right back. Also the fact that it takes less than 5 min to put your card info... On venmo. I'm stressing over here and wondering why isn't she sending the money.
So I decided to just get a refund for part of the trip and told friend b. "Ugh I'm sorry, they already refunded me part of the trip since friend c cancelled, if you want to go you can put in an order still! . That way my money isn't in use and I won't have to worry about people owing me.
She replied within a minute and said no problem.
I know never to do money engagment with friends with my own money anymore.
Have you ever experienced that?