Search Results: physical and sexual attraction

What if u meet a good man who might be the right husband for you, but his appearance is not appealing AT ALL.
i have been through the situation when I'VE never been attracted to them physically (serious men who want to marry me) they like me n found me ATTRACTIVE. Unfortunately, the mutual attraction doesn't exist. It is always the one-sided attraction.

How can I marry a man who is good but not ATTRACTIVE?
How can I enjoy having sex with him?
How can I enjoy hugging, touching, kissing him?
And y'all know how important the sexual life is in a married couple!
I can't even imagine myself losing my virginity by a man who does not attract me?

My mom is against this. She says that sex is not that important (in marriage) so you don't have to care about his appearance since he's a good man that can protect and respect you n his kids. My mon n I always argue on this :/
Attraction is not EVERY THING there're more important things that should be taken into consideration when it comes to marriage. But ATTRACTION plays a BIIIIIG role too so that the marriage can be successful

What do you think guys have you ever been into this situation before?
have you ever got married to someone you were not physically attracted to, but then attracted you after marriage?

There's this guy I've been hanging out with who's pretty awesome and with whom I feel very comfortable being myself around. It's so easy to be with him and talk about anything and everything. Joke around or talk about serious issues, doesn't matter, time just flies everytime we see. Lately I've come to realize he's really into me. And we do have this strange chemistry, I give him that. But the thing is... I don't find him physically very attractive. So even though there might be the kind of mental connection there I'd like to have with a boyfriend the thing is.. where he also feels the physical/sexual attraction towards me, for me it's missing so I'm not sure if I should try to stay friends with him or go for it and see if it could work out as something more... I don't know what to do.. What do you think?

I have never been in a relationship and never worried about it and I don't want to get a boyfriend just to cuddle but its really all i want. the physical contact is just such an amazing feeling and it is calming and invigorating and i actually feel off balance without it - i discovered that recently. and i'm not ready to worry about sex or a partners relationship expectations

... I don't know if there's any solution. massages are not great bc thats a stranger and i don't like people touching me unless i'm attracted.

I don't think i'm asexual bc i feel sexual attraction and i love contact, just not with most people and i'm not interested in sex atm but i do feel sexual sensations. I just don't want a boyfriend or a fuck buddy. I just want soft skin on skin. What do i do? its like an ache. I had no idea that was a thing.

Does anyone feel this?