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I'm a 22 year old virgin and that's partly by choice.

I've recently finished a college course where I got essentially bullied (feels weird to say that at my age in a college environment) about how I haven't had sex yet at my age. One of my three tutors being the worst for it: telling me to shut up because i'm a virgin, that I only have 8 years before I become a "wizard" and how i'll probably die alone. (not sure why it's any of his business, but that college course is behind me now).

Truth is: if it wasn't for the social expectations of "you need to have sex to fit in" I wouldn't really care that much. That's not to say that I don't want to ever have sex, but i'd rather it be with a partner than: "come on man! She'd usually be out of your league; you gotta do her! this could be your only chance!". My tutor made the point that if you have sex with 30 people then you don't care about your first and I understand what he's trying to say, but I'd feel more comfortable and probably enjoy it more if it was more about an expression of love with someone I care about rather done to just simply punch my V-card.

I'd much rather work on myself first: I have severe anxiety and am finally finding the courage to go out and talk to strangers; I attend social anxiety meet ups with others who have the same issues. I also attend the gym regularly in the hopes of toning into a body that I not only think will be more physically attractive, but also give me more confidence. That's not to say that I can't do this and have a relationship, but it just isn't that big a deal for me right now. I have had girls tell me they have feelings for me and while flattered, I just didn't feel the same.

So, should I feel bad about any of that?

Spend their teens and 20s being sexually liberated and "finding themselves". At this point they're messing around with only the tall, handsome top 20% guys and completely ignoring the rest.
They delay marriage and children to focus on their degrees and career all the while jumping from dick to dick.

When they get to their 30s, they flip the switch and start looking for a man to settle down with. At this point they've slept with at least 5 guys.

Of course they hope that one of the tall, handsome guys who they gave all the wild sex to, when they were 19, will wife them up. If it happens then they've struck gold.

If not they can always resort to getting a less attractive, bottom 80% guy, who they ignored throughout their teens, as a backup. He should be happy to have been sitting around and waiting patiently for his turn.

I find that most people (including myself) are shallow to some point or another. Some more than others. I personally hate when girls say the phrase "Looks don't really matter, I just want a nice guy" or some variation of that. When I hear that, I not sure whether to believe them or not.

When you go on dating sites, it seems like if you don't look attractive enough to a person (whether you are a guy or girl) you will have little to no luck when it comes to getting a date (or even a response) even though you and the person you like have a lot of things in common.

There is a YouTuber called Connor Murphy. In my opinion he has very cringe worthy videos. (Watch one if you haven't already). I use to see some of his videos (I no longer watch them) and it honestly makes me want to give up on finding "true love " or "the one". Especially in my generation/age range.

I am curious on other people's take on this so feel free to share your opinion.