Do girls (and people in general) treat you differently after weight loss? If so, please explain how and/or your opinion?

[Anonymous]

I find that most people (including myself) are shallow to some point or another. Some more than others. I personally hate when girls say the phrase "Looks don't really matter, I just want a nice guy" or some variation of that. When I hear that, I not sure whether to believe them or not.

When you go on dating sites, it seems like if you don't look attractive enough to a person (whether you are a guy or girl) you will have little to no luck when it comes to getting a date (or even a response) even though you and the person you like have a lot of things in common.

There is a YouTuber called Connor Murphy. In my opinion he has very cringe worthy videos. (Watch one if you haven't already). I use to see some of his videos (I no longer watch them) and it honestly makes me want to give up on finding "true love " or "the one". Especially in my generation/age range.

I am curious on other people's take on this so feel free to share your opinion.

Yes people treat me much more differently

No people still treat me the same

Other (please share and explain)

[btbc92]

It's subjective. Fake people would. Authentic people wouldn't care even if they did lose weight. The example above just shows how dysfunctional our society is. Nobody is entitled to a relationship. Nice guys go after 'sweet girls' because they feel obligated. So-called sweet girls go after jerks because they're not all that innocent themselves. That present FAKE INNOCENCE. Real sweet girls don't go after jerks, they hate them! And some quiet girls go after nice guys because they lack healthy self-esteem. Quiet girls actually go after other quiet guys 70% of the time and the rest of the 30% may be extroverted but understands and respects the quiet girl. They don't fake nice.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Yes, yes they do. After I lost a bunch of weight, the people that knew me before treated me completely different!

Mind you, being in shape still doesn't change my luck when it comes to dating; still single as a pringle and guys don't approach me... meaning it does take more than looks to find a partner, a good personality helps too.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don't have a grey area. For me every guy I know falls into two categories - guys I want to date - guys I consider as friends or would never date. I only have one person in category one at any given time. I won't be nice to somebody simply because they look nice. I will be nice to them if they are kind and intelligent and happy inside.

[boggboss]

Love the picture it's amazingly funny and yes with online dating off looks matter because female gets 10s to 100s of hits a day so looks play a major part

[Anonymous]

The drawing is interesting and amusing, and could be true to some extent, but that's a different situation from your question.

Regarding your question about people being treated differently after weight loss, that happened to my mom: My mom liked a guy when she was in college, but she was slightly chubby, the guy rejected her. After my mom lost weight, one day my mom came across that same guy. He asked my mom out, but my mom rejected him, because he rejected her when she weighed more.

[Secret6620]

Guys treated me so differently!!! Just ridiculous. But I did make a full 360 so I do understand it. Still sucks 😞

[CarpetDenim]

No, people’s treatment of me didn’t change. Most of my friends didn’t even notice.

[Starshine85]

Depends how much weight loss we're talking about.