Search Results: feminine qualities

I'm curious to know what you all think.

I personally feel a man will be judged harder by society and more difficult to attract a mate as well.

Before I started lifting weights seriously, my measurements were something like 36-26-38 (bra size 28H). Now that I've been lifting weights for over a year, and my measurements are now 38-29-40 (bra size 32DDD). I believe my body fat percentage is about the same or slightly less, but also my fat has redistributed from my love handles to my upper legs and butt (I speculate to be partly because of my age and/or supplements I've been taking). I still have a curvy silhouette, my hips and butt look rounder and fuller, and my arms and legs are more toned. The problem, though is that my back is thicker in the profile. Worse still, my waist is less drastically curved, and while my stomach looks flatter in the sense of being more athletically toned, I have that slight pooch that girls get when they have thicker abs under a small layer of fat so that I have the outline of abs but my stomach isn't nearly as flat as it was when I was sixteen and a bony, un-toned 36-24-37. I don't know what to do. I feel as though I've wasted a year of hard work just to be bigger and less feminine-looking. I realize that these aren't terrible measurements, but I feel stupid for putting so much effort to look LESS attractive. Is there any way to reduce muscle in my midsection without starving myself? Are my shoulders and arms mannish? Does it look better to be more toned or to have better ratios? Do I still look okay? (I apologize for the poor quality of the pictures. I don't have any old ones for comparison.)