This mytake is inspired by conversations I had with a few gaggers and gaggers arguing that Golden Ratio/"averageness" is a reliable indicator of beauty. The golden ratio is a tool that measures facial proportions but it's not always accurate. Some beautiful faces do not fit these measurements at all! The golden ratio doesn't have all the answers and it really has nothing to do with beauty in my opinion.
Supposedly this woman fits the "golden ratio." But is she really beautiful?
Take a look at these photos. Most people view these young men as attractive.
These young men fit the description of a "pretty boy": a foppish and effeminate man. These guys usually have small noses, big lips, large eyelashes, big bright eyes---all feminine features yet they are deemed attractive.
Guess what?
THIS IS ACTUALLY NOT ATTRACTIVE. You know why? Because these guys look too feminine and "pretty." Guys are supposed to look masculine. Even average looking guys look better than these dudes. For some reason, so many girls, especially around my age, like feminine men and I cannot see why. Some of my best friends have even liked guys who look like this and I always shake my head at them and say, "No, just no." It seems harsh but it's the truth. I'm not attracted at all to "pretty boys." In my experience, "pretty boys" have the worst attitude, think they're the coolest people ever, and try too hard to impress. I don't want a guy who looks like a premature 15 year old. I don't want to have to check out a guy's crotch to tell if he's a male!
MASCULINE guys... keep doing what you're doing. These "pretty boys" are NOT more attractive than you.
Guys, LOOKING masculine and BEING masculine is so important! Grow a beard, stay fit, don't be a pushover, challenge yourself and others, be street-smart, don't be afraid to say your opinion! That's masculine! Let's talk character now. Girls don't like guys who drool all over them. No dude! Just act normal and be easygoing. At the right times, just make jokes and be sarcastic. I want a man who can debate with me, challenge me, and push me to be my best. That's a powerful trait for a man to have. I expect him to appreciate my feminine nature, like me for me, and not have to tell me that every single day. Simple as that. All I ask for is genuineness.
Anyway rant over. This moves onto my next topic.
I believe that distinctiveness is the best quality any person can have in regards to attractiveness. Most people think that attractive people have average sized features and nearly perfect proportions when it's actually so far from true. To me, the most attractive people are the ones who can pull off an unusual or exotic feature and still look good because it goes well with their other facial features. Distinct features make a person more interesting and noticeable. People with thicker eyebrows look determined, people with thinner eyebrows look open. People with thicker lips look seductive, thinner lips are cuter and suggest a person is secretive. I actually think a sharp or even slightly crooked nose brings character to a person's face. A crooked nose on a guy suggests he's physically active and isn't afraid to get in a fight. Turn on.
As for a person's body, all shapes and sizes can be beautiful as long as it looks healthy. The most attractive people are also charming, mysterious looking, confident, and have good social skills. They may have a distinct laugh, wink, smile, voice, or walk. What makes you different from everyone else makes you stand out.
Here are examples of the kinds of guys who I find attractive, distinct, and masculine:
WHICH EQUALS HOT
These guy's faces are all very distinct and masculine. Gaspard Ulliel, pictured first, is a French actor with only one dimple and a sharp nose! Guess what? He's still hot. Lol he's probably the reason why I study French! Jeffrey Dean Morgan is hands down the most underrated person in Hollywood. That man has the most distinctive looking face ever and is all around CHARMING. Definitely hotter than Brad Pitt. Ian Somerhalder has odd, piercing eyes and really does look like a vampire. But guess what? Still hot. He may *look like* a "pretty boy" but he isn't because he has masculine features such as a defined jaw and distinguished eyebrows. He has a hot smirk too. Ryan Gosling has a large forehead, eyes that are too close together, and an unusual looking, long face but he's still really hot because he can PULL OFF being distinctive! All the exotic, unusual looking features on these guys' faces are what make them hotter than the average male! They all have character in their appearance, voices, and body language.
There are definitely way more guys I find attractive than these four. These are just general examples.
Distinct features that are in balance with other features are what makes a person interesting and more attractive.
Just because I am straight, that doesn't mean I don't have an opinion on female attractiveness.
Okay, what I'm about to say might anger many guy who like Megan Fox and Jennifer Lawrence.
Jennifer Lawrence and Megan Fox may fit conventional standards of beauty, but to me, they are not BEAUTIFUL. You know why? Because A) There are millions of women who look like these boring bimbos and B) I've known people who are far more beautiful in real life on the inside and out than these women. Believe me, I have two female cousins who modeled and they are far more beautiful, distinctive, and real than both of them.
Guys, I know I'm not going to change your mind but please take a look at these women from past and present. Each of them are distinct and beautiful:
All of them have great facial structures and distinct features! If you think the blonde, average woman with the perfect "golden ratio" is more attractive than these women who are pictured, you've got to get your eyes checked. Brooke Shields was chosen to model because of her distinctive eyebrows. Audrey Hepburn was a beauty queen.
Distinctiveness is not the same as attractiveness, but distinctiveness gets you noticed more easily. If everyone looks the same - whether all beautiful or all ugly - none of them is more attractive than any other one, thus they cease to be more attractive compared to any other one.
I'm simply expressing my honest opinion of what is attractive and what is not. Go ahead and like pretty boys and bimbos if you like them.
Of course, there are always exceptions. There are some average looking guys or even slightly feminine looking guys who are appealing. I know I'm not a "special snowflake." I've been bullied for the different looking facial features that I have. I have naturally thick eyebrows and people always think I draw them on. I'm an Eastern European...I am meant to have a sharper nose. Sorry! I don't have a regular button nose. Just because I'm thinner than most Americans, people on GAG think I'm anorexic or a size 2 when I'm actually a size 6.
I wouldn't be surprised if gaggers told me this:
"WOW...really? You're a size 6? You're still an anorexic bitch!"
-Pink anon and blue anon
I wanted to deactivate my account from all the things that gaggers told me but I guess I'm here with a new account and a cooler username. This is gonna be my official account once I delete my other one.
I think people are scared of what's different. They don't want to see the beauty in someone just because they have a larger or smaller than average body, nose, whatever it is. It only takes one comment to hurt a person's feelings. I think it's so unfair that people feel like they go through this alone. Many young women feel like they are not pretty enough (I know I do) and also some men feel like they're not muscular enough. This negativity needs to stop.
I know I used celebrities as my examples, but that doesn't mean I expect people to look like that. I expect people to have some sort of flaw. I actually find lots of guys attractive as long as they're not "pretty" and a little above average. There are actually lots of normal looking people who are hot and distinct, and are similar to what I described.
Everyone, just stop being so typical. For once, stop flipping through all the magazines expecting people to look a certain way because much of it is NOT REAL.
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