The Secret of Being Attractive

[phillykreta]

So I've been browsing around here and have found so many questions about 'is this pretty?' or 'du guys/girls like this?'

First of all, I know how nice it is to have some support and have someone tell you that it does look good or the opposite gender does like it.

But everyone is different and there are guys who tend to like wavy girls or walking sticks... There is a variety as large as there are possibilities to look...

But even though a person may have a certain type. It's not built into stone.

So what is really attractive?

I'm going to go straight to the point here.

When you love yourself, others are going to love you too.

I know that most people think that people who are adored and told to be pretty by others that they then feel pretty as a result from that. But it is the other way round. You've gotta feel pretty first and then people are going to recognise you as pretty. You've gotta like yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin. If you don't, Change. If you do, never change for anyone.

It is scientifically proven that when feeling confident and comfortable, other pheromones are released by your body which attract the opposite gender Because they are compelled by nature to like self loving girls. Because someone who is comfortable in their own skin and content with their own life is most likely healthy and can provide healthy offsprings... That's the way it is...

So please just start by looking in the mirror, smiling and finding something about yourself you like. And then others are going to see that too.

God has created you to be perfect, don't doubt him.

Bless you all and good luck with your flirting or dating or finding someone :)

[capturemyheartnow]

The Science of Attraction is no based on beauty alone. Do you agree?

[phillykreta]

Fully agree

[capturemyheartnow]

Than what makes an ugly looking person attractive? What does your science say about it?

[phillykreta]

It's not my science and obviously in the systematic theory there is no ugly... there is just unsure of oneself. .

[capturemyheartnow]

Ugly and beautiful is just in the looks but real attractiveness lies even outside your looks. That's what I wanted to say. The Science Of Attractiveness lies in (1) Voice , (2) Wit , (3) Availability , (4) Body Language , (5) Reputation , (6) Style , (7) Charm , (8) Appearance , (9) Mood.---More factors may still be there.

[Anonymous]

well written

[Baconburger]

It is also scientifically proven that people will find others of the opposite gender more attractive and better smelling (pheromones) if that person's immune system is more compatible with theirs. Why do I mention this? because there is no "secret of being attractive" or "straight to the point" cases when it comes to human interaction. Trying to scientifically prove something like that is even more impossible. Does being more confident help? Of course. But does that mean you will become more attractive to the opposite gender? Not necessarily. You allude pheromones being a factor to being more attractive, but is that factor due to your increase in confidence? or just a compatibility of immune systems? or simply because you looked good that day? There is a countless number of reasons why, so for anyone who read that, take it with a grind of salt.

[SEntertainment]

Sadly, sometimes it's incredibly difficult and painful to love yourself. I have found a lot of fulfillment from showing others love, but haven't found love yet for myself.

[AndrewTroy]

Is it possible that attraction is not experienced by men in the same way as you experience it towards men?

[phillykreta]

It obviously depends from person to person, but this take is not how I experienced it but more about what the biology of the human body tells us

[AndrewTroy]

I apologise for sounding like a crunchy old man… but the biology of the human body doesn't tell us much.

Pheromones, for example, play a fairly limited role in human attraction. Even as late as last year, the 'big four' major human pheromones are still regarded as speculative - they are not actually known to be pheromones (Wyatt, 2015, rspb.royalsocietypublishing.org/.../20142994.abstract)

The rest of the MyTake is your opinion and observations. Nothing wrong with that, but there's no science to it :) In which case, my original point stands… other people don't necessarily experience the world the way you do :)

[phillykreta]

Its actually not mine but my professors opinion, who is studying the rules of attraction for 6 years now...

[dizmuhjam]

The perfection of the human lays in its inperfection.
What some person doesn't like about someone, lets another person go crazy about said someone.

[Spirit_Is_Free]

Great take - I totally agree with this point of view.

[AbandonShip]

How can anyone [honestly] rate you when they cannot see your face?

[phillykreta]

What do you mean?

[OrangeBoy]

"It is scientifically proven that when feeling confident and comfortable, other pheromones are released by your body which attract the opposite gender"

woa, is this really true? didn't know this.

[Notorisch_Arschloch]

That's a lot of words for, "Don't be a fatty."

[boshcak]

Well said! I fully agree.

[2112Rush]

I like your take on this!

[girlinthemirror]

1st u need to like urself for everyone else like u

[Grayino]

Perfect!! Beautiful!! Send a message?

[captainw0ww]

Strongly agree

[Anonymous]

Good one!