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This one is for the guys, I will have the same question with the exception of women being used instead of men in the title after I'm done writing this question for women to answer. (with a slightly different theme).

According to a recent government survey around 55,000 Americans marry someone from a foreign country every year. Of that number 10,000 are men that meet women through an international introductions service. These are basically matchmakers in the traditional sense of the word or like match.com with the exception that they work exclusively with women from outside your country vs. women in your area. One of the measured benefits of marrying someone from another country is the divorce rate of "only" 20% in comparison to the 50+% with American/local women.

My question for the guys is have you considered making use of these services to find your life partner? Why or why not? Are you afraid of ridicule from others, don't know enough about it, etc.? What kind of information would you need to know to consider making use of these services?

I have personally seen this happen to American women before, more than once. Some older, uglier older foreign man actually offer to pay a woman a LOT of money in exchange for marriage so that he can become a US citizen. He even allowed the woman to divorce him the moment he gains the proper paperwork as a citizen. The amount offered was quite considerable, even for today's economic standards. These were not internet scammers, but were men who were attending college here in the USA or were in some business with the Government who knew the ladies they proposed to. For argument's sake, lets say the amount is $100,000USD, the price is set without negotiation.

What would you do? Would you take the money and run after a polite thank you? What would prevent you from doing this? If a foreign woman offered such a request to me, I would seriously consider it, even keep her if I really like her!

Reality being what it is...

Let's hear it folks!

There is a growing trend in the United States of men preferring or even only exclusively dating and marrying women from other countries, cultures, raised by immigrants, etc.

Some men say it's because the feminist movement in the U.S. has gone too far and that U.S. women are too much like men now in comparison to their foreign counterparts. Other men say it's because foreign women tend to value the relationship more, put more effort into it (because of their differences in culture), and are more clear with their intentions and don't play games. Finally with growing obesity rates in the U.S. more than any other culture, some men consider the majority of U.S. women too overweight and don't take care of their bodies(nor am I denying that American men can be overweight/obese as well) compared to foreign women who tend to keep in better physical shape.

Some U.S. women say it is because U.S. men want submissive, "mail ordered brides" (which I personally find to be rather offensive to consider any woman as such). Some say it is because they can't handle a "real" woman and have to go overseas to find a more "frail," and dependent woman. Some say these men are fat and ugly themselves and cannot attract an U.S. mate. Some say many other things which are rather rude and degenerate which I shall not repeat out of politeness.

The list on both genders for and against goes on and on. Personally I have been in relationships with women from the U.S.A., Europe, Asia, and South America (Colombia, Brazil, etc.). I have found that while every country has it's crazies (both men and women) and relationships from hell, that the U.S. is on the top of this category and that overall my relationships have been better with women from abroad than with women domestically. I did live in their countries during some of these as well and had to deal with other demons as being an American citizen in their country trying to date their women.

One set of facts to be kept in mind:

U.S./U.S. divorce rate is over 50%

U.S./Foreigner divorce rate is at 20%

U.S./Foreigner with U.S. husband living in the country of the wife: unmeasurable at barely above 0%

So what I ask is;

Men: Do you prefer U.S. women or Foreign women (or non American women if you are not from the States)

U.S. women: why do you think men seem to prefer foreign women over American women (and please give legitimate answers, none of the "not a real man," "fat, ugly, etc." rude answers. They are disrespectful to both men and the women they are referring to.

Foreign women: why do/don't you think U.S. men prefer relationships/marriage with Foreign women over U.S. women?