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Been in the dating scene for the past 7-8 years, like every guy out there at first i thought that love, compassion and attention will get you the girl, since i saw some guys making it work... turns out these guys either seriously lucked out out or had other attractive qualities "money" .

In reality the dating scene was a little more complicated than showing love and attention to get women, i once ignored a girl whom i had feelings for and for some reason she decided to not pursue anything with me any further, and i was surprised when she came to me a while later asking why do i avoid her and showing far more interest in me than before... my first ex i almost showed no interest in and never considered dating or flirting with her but after a few text messages (she messaged me) we ended up going on a date and dating for a while, my now ex acted weird and distant at first, so i ignored her, she started pursuing me harder and finally i told her i have no interest in girl who acts like she does (she is hot by the way ) ... the result? dated for 3 months, she probably even left her boyfriend to date me.

between these two gfs i met plenty of women be it at college or out of college, and what i noticed was that showing any kind of attention in women almost always led to them losing interest in me, when i acted distant and made no effort i had compliments and interest from all kinds of girls and they werent shy about showing it, showing little to no interest in women has helped me a lot and i still can't figure out why is it like that?

I met this girl at school. For the sake of convenience, let's call her Joanna.

Looks-wise I found her completely average with the exception of amazing legs, but her upbeat personality definitely made her 10x cuter in my eyes.

She was a casual friend of mine. She'd smile at me and we'd have small talk, but never had in depth conversations.

Basically, a friend of mine invited some of his friends to a party at his house, and that party included me, Joanna, and some other friends of his, both male and female.

At the party, we were having fun. Mostly just drinking, hearing some nice music, and playing video games.

Then, the rest of the people wanted to go out to buy some food, while me and Joanna just wanted to stay and play some more Smash Bros.

And we did just that...

But then out of nowhere, after a few rounds, we got worn out.

And then Joanna said, "(my name), have you ever noticed how I never ever wear pants, and only wear shorts?"

Then I said, "I guess?"

Then she smiled and went on to say, "The truth is, I used to be very insecure, and a lot more lazy. But in the past few years, I've been going to the gym more, putting in the willpower to shave my legs, eating healthier. And now, it's gotten to the point where I absolutely despise pants and only want to wear shorts, because it reminds me of the hard work I've been putting into being healthy all these years."

And I just looked at her and said, "Yeah?"

Then she said, "Yeah. Plus, whenever I'm bored I just like to feel my legs all over. They're so soft and smooth it's ridiculous. Before I became healthier they were never this lovely."

And she smiled and leaned on me real quick, I blushed kind of hard. Then she suddenly said, "Now back to gaming!" And eventually everyone else came back and the party continued. Nothing else happened from there.

But man... what was she doing?

Was she flirting with me, or was it just casual small talk?